Change of date to next year, Help!!

I would only change the date if I felt it was best for us, are you set on September? Maybe look at early 2020 as a compromise? As far as cake tasting goes we aren't even doing a cake and I do not at all feel like I am missing out. I am not sure exactly what you mean about the venue but we only looked at 3 venues and chose 2 of them.

My MOH lives 3 provinces away so she came dress shopping but that is the only time I will see her before the wedding, she has been helping me with as much as possible from there. My one local bridesmaid has stepped in though and is there when I have questions. So distance is definitely doable.

Your priest is nice is enough to give the hall for free and let you everything at the hall. Talk to him and ask him if you should change the date to nexy year. If he says no, then let it be as is for your set date. If the answer is yes, talk to your fiance and tell him what was discussed and see if he agrees to go along with the change. As for your moms view on "tradional" expo show, i beleive as a couple you decide on big purchases together and see if there may be things of interests to you both. Wedding party is allowed for free i beleive if you want them to join you. The only one thing that your husband doesn't join your bridal party and mom for is the dress.

I personally had signed up our names for an expo and we didn't see anything as i had gone simpler on decor near my parents home. Overall, its a great experience to see whats new and upcoming.

My mom was a professional cake decorator out of her home, years ago, so Financially speaking, because she offered to do my wedding cake, she’s saving me money. My priest wants to talk about why I switched it to next year, so if we have the church and hall booked, we wouldn’t have to pay the hall fee, because I go to that church. All we would have to do is bring in Decorations, Liquor license, Caterer and Food truck, which is fine. I have been discussing things with MOH through text, Messenger chat, etc. But it’s difficult when she’s working. I have my first Wedding Expo in September booked, it says and groom on the flyer, but my mom and sister are insisting it be “Traditional” ie. He can’t help out with certain things, but this is MY wedding and if he wants to be a part of every single step of wedding planning then so be it. Tell me the truth ladies, am I really missing out on not liking for a venue if I just do it through my church? Is that supposed o be fun? And if my mom does my cake (Her wedding cakes are AMAZING) am I really missing out so much on Cake tastings? My MOH’s Mom said she would help bake things, for wedding, etc.

Sit down with your mom and ask her why she feels the year before for the change. O know your juggling through so much and trying to survive with the payments, living and school. I think its best to still save rather than overworking yourself too much.

You can keep in touch with you MOH through app, emails and calls giving updates on whats being done and when will be good time for dress shopping and bridal party get togethers.

How involved do you want your MOH to be in planning the wedding? My MOH and me have been doing a lot of planning through texts and via pintrest as our schedules are so opposite I can only see her once a month. A year is still a long time to plan a wedding, but I wouldn't feel too much pressure from your mom to change the date unless she is helping a lot financially

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Is your mother paying for the wedding and that's why she's dictating the date change? a year is a BIG change, so I'd hope that you don't have any deposits down yet. I hope all the change works out for you (living closer to school does help tho! Also a student bride over here ).

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If you're just worried about not being able to do it in less time, I promise you it's absolutely doable.

We planned our wedding in just 6 months, with a move in the middle of it, while both of us where working full time (and even overtime for a bit). I've had to cut on the DIY, but otherwise I didn't feel like it was anywhere near too short. My brother-in-law and his wife did it in even less time (5 months), although she had much more free time than I did.

I got engaged December 2017, and we're getting married January 2019 (just under 13 month engagement)... it's totally doable! Beyond doable...

If you're overwhelmed, or not wanting it sooner, stick with your original date. I'm assuming you/your family is more traditional that you won't move in with your fiance until after the wedding? If so, I would even more so lean towards doing it for 2019...

It can seem overwhelming to cut a year off of planning, but honestly, you can plan 90% of your wedding between September and December of this year... The planning portion can be done fairly efficiently, and then it takes the same amount of time prepping stuff leading up to the wedding whether it's 2019 or 2020 (DIY projects, centrpieces, pre-wedding parties, etc).

Don't do anything you're not comfortable with, but if you're wondering if 1 year is enough time, yes, it totally is!

Like Tori said, we're all here to help too! For any advice, ideas, or just bridal therapy haha.

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Ohhhhh I see, so maybe just a little overwhelmed with the fact that you would be planning for a wedding a year sooner, and probably be moving in with him if not getting a place together, and on top of that you are going to school (and working on top of that possibly). I get it! Lol I got engaged Dec. 2017 and our wedding will be Oct. 2019 and we juuuuust bought a house this last month and are fully moving in to it tomorrow. On top of that I work full time and am going to class 2 nights a week Have no fear! The community is here for you in all of this at all times of the day!

I’m completely ok with it, I’m just flustered because I’m going to be in school for the next four years and his apartment is a lot closer to the U then having to constantly go back and fourth from home, to school, to his apartment. It makes sense to me and he has been buggin me to live with him, lol. Plus, I think she wants me out of the house sooner, lol.

It's all okay! Is there a specific reason that she is requesting this and do you agree with it? If at the end of all of that you are thinking that you should do it in 2019 and are just worried about getting everything together and on top of that no help from the MOH as she isn't back until Sept. this year then trust me - it's doable!

Why does she want you to change your date? If you aren't comfortable with changing your date then stick with September 2020 like you planned.