Ceremony after the reception

View quoted message Having a drink or two should be fine though. Of course we can’t be wasted. Thanks for the reminder. I didn’t think of that xd my bad

I think it's a lovely idea.

Be sure to make that clear in your invites!

View quoted message We both are adamant that we want to get married on the 29th. The venue suggest this idea of a reverse wedding. And since then we both like the idea. We’re both non traditional people . Plus we figured even if we had a ceromny first boy everyone would make it out for that. So if not everyone is around past midnight that’s okay.

Ive been reading up what other couples have done with reverse weddings and I agree a first look photo would have to happen instead. I’ve also read to cut the booze an hour before hand. So cut it by 11pm. Resume right after . Not everyone at the reception are big drinkers so I’m hoping it works out.

Still a lot of bugs in this set up! I’m appreciating everyone’s input and thoughts.

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This was my first thought... even for the guests if you want them to be calm to watch the ceremony at midnight too the liquor will need to be kept to a minimum before hand.

I think it's an interesting idea! For photos you can always do a "First Look" before the reception on the saturday.

But again just keep in mind alcohol when making your decision! Why wouldn't you do the full ceremony and reception on the sunday instead?

Just may want to keep in mind that you can’t sign a legal document while under the influence. So you will have to stay alcohol free until you sign the marriage license, as well as your witnesses.

That sounds fine by me!

Congrats on the engagement by the way

I would think the photos will just be first look ones and then take the whole family and wedding party photo's after. Theeeeen the reception, then the cocktail hour is when you can change into a different dress and update the hair and change the makeup or touch up, and bam! Walk down the aisle at 12:01AM on your preferred date!

View quoted message Thanks for the advice!

Theres lots to to think about for sure! I’ll look into the sites you find and see what could work best for us. Thankfully the crowd were inving hopefully aren’t to drunk, let alone us. We also figured that most people would not attend the ceremony anyways (planned to do it at city all since were not religious) . Also fun fact, you can’t marry on Sunday’s at city hall . Also part of our reason for considering this reverse wedding.

the tricky thing also will be to figure out photos and such too. Thankfully we have more or less 20months till exact details are needed.
No need to stress yet

View quoted message The hall is currently have a promotion so Friday, Saturday, Sunday weddings cost all the same.
We were thinking of doing the reveresd wedding so our guests can drink and stay out late on Saturday. The original day was Sunday but who wants to drink and leave late for work the following day?
We figured doing it on Saturday benefits the guests and us. Plus we want the legal documents on a specific date.
its slightly odd and different but I feel like that’s us. And something no one would expect.
I’m hoping it works out not just in theory . Ahhhh! Lots to think about

Reversed weddings are rather unusual. The concerns shared are what I think would affect the day after due to drinking too and late hour of the hall.

Your guests will want to enjoy their time on your day. If the hall costs are lower for Sunday, why not have the wedding and reception then or on Friday so that Saturday will give them the time to sleep after the late hours of celebration.

I did a quick google search, using the words "reversed wedding", which prompted a bunch of results, so you're definitely not the only couple to do this! Though most of the results talk about getting married closer to 9-10pm.

Here's one link about building your timeline : https://lover.ly/planning/news-tips/ideas/reverse-wedding-timeline/

The same website also has an article on ways to letting your guests know you're having a reverse weddings : https://lover.ly/planning/news-tips/ideas/reverse-wedding/

My two concerns, with reversing the events and having the ceremony at such a "late" hour, are :

- Guests that are too drunk for the ceremony;

- Older guests not staying up late enough to enjoy the ceremony with you.

In terms of "getting ready", you could have your hair and makeup done well in advance that day, and a different dress for the reception. Then, at like 10:30-11pm, you both could leave get changed into your wedding attires, while everyone else is moved to a "cocktail hour" before the ceremony.

I really hope you'll post updates on your planning