Cash Registry

We recently made a cash registry for our wedding without the taboo with GIFTED. It's amazing because you choose a charity to donate any amount of your gifts to and the registry page says 'In support of' and then adds the logo of the charity you chose. We also got to upload a picture of us (we used a cute one from our engagement photos) and tell our guests that we'd appreciate if they would consider contributing to our registry as our charity is important to us and we will be sharing a portion with it. You don't need to disclose how much you choose to share.
We didn't use their online invitations but created just the registry and printed that right on our invitations and added the link to our wedding website. But their invitations are really nice too. My friend used it for their wedding and after I Rsvp'd their wedding registry popped up. It was so nice as a guest to give a gift right when I RSVP'd and not have to worry about it later. Highly recommend it. www.thisisgifted.com

I put something like:

We currently have everything we need. We would appreciate a contribution to the next step in our happily ever after, as we would love to have place to call our own. Please see the envelopes within your invitations (we included red chinese envelopes which is used to place money in and give to bride and groom).

If you desire to present a gift instead please visit: www.bedbathandbeyond.ca

Our registry number: #######

By wording it this way it still states we prefer money however to those who are strictly against giving money we still give the guests the option to do a gift. But we are doing a small registry like 20 items if that.

View quoted message Sure! It is:

Our life together has already begun,

We have almost everything under the sun.

We ask, if you were thinking of giving a gift,

To know, a little extra money would give us a lift.

We’ll put it all together to buy something that’s best,

As a reminder of this day and our wonderful guests.

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I would love if you could message me the wording - I need to come up with something fun to say! People are already asking me where I registered!

Honestly, I think everyone prefers to get cash, and giving cash is SO easy. So on our information card going out with the invitation we have a cute little poem that says something about how our life together has already begun and that a little extra money would give us a lift. And how we’ll put it all together and buy something that’s best as a reminder of our day and our wonderful guests. (Not word for word obviously, hahah but you get the point.)

View quoted message No I totally agree with you there! It's totally different if it's word of mouth, it's more personable then. On paper, it just doesn't seem appropriate. And haha that's great!! I should do that next time 😂

View quoted message I agree if people ask be honest and have you or your hosts tell them but in no other circumstance. To me it's the rudest thing you can do to a guest, is tell them you want their money. I hate it so much that if people ask for money I'll usually bring a gift, and I usually give money! Lol To me it screams "If you want to be part of my celebration you better bring an envelope with you!" We should never tell a guest or anyone one else what to do with their money. Again my opinion, to each their own.

View quoted message Yes I agree! However, I think a honeymoon registry is different. I went to a wedding where there was no registry and they out in the card that they didn't want gifts but if you felt so inclined to give a card with something inside... I thought it was cute but rude at the same time. Oh well, to each their own. But if people are asking what you want/need, I would be honest in that regard and say you are needing cash to (start a family, build a house, go on a honeymoon, etc)

There is a way to let your guests know how to give monetary gifts by simply stating no boxed gifts please. A lot of indian and other invitations mention that phrase which is being offended to anyone.

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Agreed. Just don't register at all. You might also get some cool unique gifts this way.

We were in the same boat. What we did was we created a honeymoon registry for my bridal shower and listed excursion we would like to go on and people purchased them for us. We didn't have a registry for the wedding and got cash for the most part. Generally, if there is no registry, cash is the go-to gift. But I agree with the sentiment that we would never outright ask for cash from our guests, especially not on the invitation.

In my opinion its all kinds of wrong to ask for money from your guests. If you don't list that you are registered anywhere, it's assumed that monetary gifts are what you would prefer. You can also tell a few select people in your bridal party that if they are contacted by any guests to advise them at that time you prefer money.

We were in the same boat and just went with no registry and we ended up with cash/cheques.

I feel the same way i don't need anything for my house so i just need cash. I am just not having a registry, that way people will take the hint and give cash. if anyone asks about a registry i will just say something about our deck fund because we are building a deck with our wedding money.

We had a registry and still we mostly got cash gifts. If you can find a cute way to tell people about a honeymoon fund then do that but otherwise I think that if there isn't a registry. people will give cash.

I’d assume that if you don’t provide your guest with a registry, they would be forced to give you a monetary gift.

That’s what I’d do if I were invited to an event that didn’t have a registry.

Honestly don't worry about what people will think-it doesn't matter where their money goes in the end because they gifted it to you. Just make sure you put a cute polite way of asking it. I've heard a couple of people do this and have cool jingles of how to ask. Unfortunately, this isn't something I'm doing so I completely forgot the way they ask. I'm sorry!! But it's definitely a good idea 😊