So we are having a cash bar at our wedding- this was not our original intention, but we have being drawing the short straw in life a lot lately and circumstances have had to change. We have cut as much as we feel we possibly can, we have a small guest list (60 people), I got my dress at the DB $99 dollar sale, FH isn’t wearing a suit- we got him a new shirt ($10 clearance find!) and tie, no bridal party etc etc- we also can’t change the date to a later date without losing all the deposits we’ve already spent. But the budget still hasn’t come down enough to allow us to keep the original open bar idea. We will provide wine on the tables during dinner (1-2 hours, bar will have to be closed during this time) and we have budgeted to provide 2 drink tickets per guest.
Every article I read seems to say we are HORRIBLE TERRIBLE people for even uttering the words “cash bar” and I have read other community forums that basically tell you the same. I have a few friends who have turned up their noses when I’ve said we will likely have to have a cash bar.
A t this point I’m ready to throw in the towel for the entire day and just forget it- i am so beyond stressed about people being offended by having to purchase drinks, and I would hate to upset people. I know other forums advice is to cut the guest list further- but wouldn’t you rather be invited to celebrate with friends then have free booze?! Anyway, thanks for listening to my rant!!! Any advice is greatly appreciated!