Cancelling Wedding and Eloping

Go for it! If you're okay with losing the money you put down in deposits because you know this is more you and will make you happier, then it's up to you! I hope you're able to have the wedding you are hoping for.

You have to do what’s right for you and your FH, so if eloping is that, then do it and enjoy! You need to be authentic to yourselves, and it sounds like you’re on the right path ☺️ I’m glad you’re not feeling pressured into doing something you don’t want to do. The more “typical” weddings that we all see are definitely not for everyone.

It's very clear that you are not a wedding person. Not everyone is. The day needs to be something you look back on in 10, 20 or 50 years and have absolutely no regrets. For me, if we had gone with my original eloping idea I would 100% regret it, for you it seems you may regret not eloping. If you feel that having a ceremony in front of family and friends is just for them and not you then why would you do that?!? Do what is for you and your fiance, what makes you two happy. It's not childish or selfish to want YOUR wedding day to be about YOU.
Like some others mentioned, you can always have a reception later with family and friends

It sounds like you're only having a traditional wedding ceremony to please other people (and can I just say, SAME) - so I vote, if it's what you really want, ELOPE. I wish I could... 30 days away and I would give anything to be able to ditch it everything and go to city hall with him.

If eloping is what you both want to do then do it! It is your wedding not your parents.

If they want to be there or a part of it then maybe you can facetime them the ceremony? You aren't being childish at all by wanting a wedding that is YOUR dream wedding and not something your parents want

Do what is best for you both and not be dictated by others. Elope and just have a celebration after if that is what you feel you want to do. Parents had their wedding and their way and feel you should follow that path. Follow your heart and just don't think twice about it. Still have the officiant come out to the house for marrying you.

If I were you, I'd run and elope with your FH! Do what you and your FH really want to do. It sounds like not a lot has been paid towards the wedding so you wouldn't be losing a lot of money.

It also sounds like you have the support of your guests - and they would understand if you went this route.

It should always be about what you want. My FH and I always joke about how we should just get on a plane and head to Vegas - it makes sense, its so much cheaper, and the focus should be on the couple and their wishes. However, for us we believe it is important to follow the traditional route because it is something that is important to both of our families and we are proud to host and unite our families with a party. Sure it gets frustrating and stressful and might need to get talked down from the ledge sometimes but at the end of the day its the memories and celebrations with family that we will remember and cherish most.

Side note: I understand it's selfish sometimes to think about the money that you get back but you're likely to break-even or even make money and you'll have all of those memories forever which is truly priceless.

On the other hand - if you decide to elope and feel regret later in your life you can always have an anniversary ceremony like renewing of your vows or just a milestone celebration party. Everything is up to you and your FH.

Hi Sheena, I say follow your heart. At the end of the day this not something that in years from now you wished you could have done it the way you really wanted.

Well if it's what you and your FH want - I think it's something that you should do. I think having the reception back home after you tie the knot would be really good though so that you can still give your parents what they are looking for. Would it be at all possible to go elope, and then come home are do a simple vow exchange in front of family and friends? It wouldn't be a secret that you already got married but it would give you what you want and a little of what the parents are looking for.

Hi Becky, yes that was the original plan.

Hi Sheena, this day is about you, if you don’t want the big day then just elope. You will be loosing all your deposits. Have you thought about eloping prior to that date and doing a reception for your family on the date you had something planned?