Cancelling and changing plans.. Help!

If you would like it to seem less obvious, maybe do not have the bridesmaid stand at the ceremony with you, have them seated. Family is usually the first two rows, the third row can be for them. Also if you are not already doing this, at the reception have a sweetheart table.

I am trying to look at it from both perspectives, if you were to cancel the ceremony and hosted a more private one; the bridesmaid may be upset for purchasing things for the wedding that will barely get used, even if they were able to purchase the cheapest items; it still cost them money.

HI Krista,

I am sorry you are feeling this way. If you truly do not want that part anymore, you can cancel it and people with deal with it. But if you do plan to cancel, you should make that decision sooner than later, so that guests can change their plans if needed.

Your own personally happiness is far more important than others, regardless of what day it is. They do not need to know why the ceremony is now cancelled, you can just state there was a change in plans, reception is still a go and you will see them all there. I assume anyone that you want at the ceremony will be understanding.

Ultimately, this is your day and it should be as you wish.

best of luck.