Bridesmaids responsibility......

I'd like to be able to afford to pay for my Girls hair and makeup but I can't afford it. The Girls-1 asked my Mom to make their appointments. I made it clear that although I had booked the makeup artist that it is optional & the price with the link to see her work. I let them know I'll be paying the extra fee to have 2 makeup artists. I have 2 Mohs & 4 Bridesmaids. All of the Girls are having hair and makeup done. They have all but 1 said to me privately that this is something that they assumed was expected when they said yes to being in our Wedding party. I was shocked when 1 of my bridesmaids offered to pay for the 1 Girl who has opted out of both. My bridesmaid feels like my pictures won't look great if there is 1 Girl who hasn't had hair and makeup done. I appreciate the kindness and the offer but I said no thank you. To me, it's up to my Bridesmaid to choose to do it or not. I completely understand if she is unable to afford it. The Girls have spent $250.00 on their dresses before altercations as well as $30ish on shoes. I have bought each Girl a very good pair of earrings to match their dresses I think and hope they will love forever. I spent a lot more than I wanted because of the quality but know they deserve it.

Here is the breakdown~ deposits paid for hair and make up. A matching clutch from 31, a matching shrug, tiffany bracelet.....so I was hoping to not pay for hair and make up as well since I already spent so much

Thanks everyone. I"ll review the costs with them to "remind".

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I did consult them before booking and they all asked to be booked. I have no preference.

I've been a bridesmaid 12 times. and I have always assumed I was paying for my own hair and make up. now if you booked it without discussing the cost with them, I would then thing you are paying for it. when I started looking for hair dressers and makeup artists I gave the girls the price and asked if they wanted it to go with it. but I was also ok if they wanted to do their own hair and make up. that it didn't matter to me. they all asked to be booked. if come closer to the day of I can afford part of it for them, I will pay and surprise them.

if you are making them get their hair and make up done, then rule of thumb is that you pay.

Up to you - just make sure they are aware of what is going on. For me and my girls I will not be paying for it just because it's not very important to me. Same with makeup. Those things are being done by us unless they want to go get it done 2.5 hours away from the venue - that's another reason.

If you have a specific hairstyle that you want them to have then I would pay for it but if not and you don't care what they do as long as it's not what you are doing with your hair then I say that it's up for debate on who pays.

Brittany put it perfectly - if it's mandatory that they have this specific person do their hair and appointments are already booked then I would pay for it if I were you - unless when you asked your girls they knew they would be footing the bill. (Keep in mind if you bring it up now that some might choose to do it themselves and not get it done with the hair stylist you have hired.

I will not be getting my make-up professionally done, but I am getting my hair done. My 3 bridesmaids have been offered if they want to pay for it, to get their hair done, but I'm pretty sure all 3 are going to do their own hair and make-up.

If you want to, you can pay for their hair and make-up as part of their gift (although it's not a very fun gift in my opinion, it should be extra to something)... If you're going to make it mandatory, you NEED to pay for it (it's rude to force that expense on them when they may feel they can do it on their own).

Maybe reach out and do a group chat to everyone who's "booked", mentioning a gentle reminder of what the cost will be on the day, and that they need cash/cheque/etransfer, whatever... And if anyone then backs out because they thought it was paid for, you can ask your stylist to transfer their deposit towards the balance of the other girls.

In short though, no, you're not expected to pay for it (unless you're making them do it).

As the other ladies have said it is completely up to you!
I am paying for their hair and makeup and they will pay for their dress and any accessories. I am doing the same as Tyanna when it comes to the dresses. The only preference I have is the same designer and colour. Other than that they can pick their own. So Atleast with me paying for hair and makeup that will all be similar depending on the dresses they pick!

I am a hair stylist and it's quite common for the bride to pay for hair, as it is something that is "expected" to be done for the wedding. Makeup, on the other hand is often paid for by the bridesmaids individually, as it is something they decide on their own to get done!

I'm a firm believer in paying for things that you expect them to have (specific shoes, jewelry etc)

I let all my girls choose their own dresses (I picked a designer so the colour would all be the same) but their dresses were on their dime. Shoes are also on their dime, but I have no preferance on what they wear!

Their hair is kind of non negotiable when it comes to professional vs DIY hair, so I wouldnt expect them to pay for that since its my personal preference! Being a bridesmaid can be expensive, and while they're here to support me I don't want them to go broke over it because I kept throwing more expenses their way

But also! Ditto to Valerie! What ever you do decide (to pay or not pay) make sure your girls know asap!

I am paying for my girls hair and make up completely! Originally I was going to cover a portion but then I was worried some might not want to pay/just do things themselves so I thought to be fair and consistent I would pay for it! They paid for their dresses and then theres also the bachelorette party (weekend trip away) and I dont want to ask much more of them money wise after that!

Hi Trish!

Having been a bridesmaid, I had to pay for my hair/makeup. The bride made it clear, pretty early on, what exactly she'd be paying for.

Regardless of what you decide to do (pay or not), I'd let your bridesmaids know. That way, they can either prepare to pay or thank you for your generosity!