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Featured September 2021 Ontario

Bridesmaids and Groomsmen vs The Parents

Hank, on July 12, 2021 at 18:04 Posted in Plan a wedding 0 4
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Have you ever been part of a bridal party where you're doing what you can to support the couple's vision of their day only to have the parents come and demand something different?

Both my fiancee and I have been part of bridal parties where there were creative differences between the couple and the parents. We would work to the couple's specifications but the parents would take it upon themselves to go 180 on the plan. Sometimes they were small things that was easy to brush off or if changed, wouldn't bother the couple. But sometimes, it could be something huge, like certain religious traditions, seating charts, etc. You don't want to burden the couple on their big day but you also don't want to let the parents get away with fundamentally changing the vibe that was designed by the couple. What do you do?


Now if you were the couple in this situation and you knew what was going on, how would you handle it? Would you want your bridal party to tell you or would you want to be blissfully ignorant of the drama until after it's said and done?

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Latest activity by Vinod, on July 16, 2021 at 20:12
  • Vinod
    Featured August 2017 Ontario
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    Being the couple wanting to have things happen as scheduled would be awesomely smooth. Beforehand with the knowledge of the parents motives to change plans, I would make sure to have someone in charge of the situation and notify me as soon as possible. The parents would have to be dealt with later after the celebrations as a scene would be created and show your going with the flow at the time.
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  • Katerina
    Curious August 2021 Ontario
    Katerina ·
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    Ok then let it play out maybe

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  • Hank
    Featured September 2021 Ontario
    Hank ·
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    I would hope a wedding couple in this situation would be able to anticipate it. Any parent with such ulterior motives usually don't hide them that well.

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  • Katerina
    Curious August 2021 Ontario
    Katerina ·
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    Personally if I was the bride in this situation I would definitely want to know. It would give me the chance to decide for myself if we could make ourselves ok with the changes or if something needed to be done.

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