Bridesmaids

I had the same dilemma, ultimately I decided to have them both be MOH. To hell with the rules, who made the rules anyway! To my surprise, they both loved this idea and were so thankful to have one another to share the responsibilities and party planning with.

I want to make them both feel special and equal, so I'm thinking of having each of them take the lead on certain things (ex: MOH 1 stands right beside me at the altar, MOH 2 sits beside me at dinner, etc.).

But, if you are really against the idea of 2 MOH's, I don't see why you couldn't have no MOH at all. Is your fiance having a Best Man? For modern weddings, I think there really are no rules and you can do whatever suits you!

As both of my bridesmaids are great friends of mine and live far away I decided to not name either one of the MOH. It just seemed easier for everyone.

It's fine to just call them all bridesmaids, or call both MOH, and just talk with them about who will do what roles (who will stand closer to you during the ceremony to hold your bouquet, who will give a toast, etc). Since it seems like you have an idea of how that will work already, the title is just a name, and you can do with either one, whichever you think will make them happier

I was having the same issue (two girl friends who both wanted to be MOH and would have been pissed if they didn't get chosen *eye roll*) so i just decided not to have one! All 6 of my Bridesmaids share duties equally and my sister will be the one standing directly behind me and holding my bouquet during the ceremony. And i told them that who ever wants to do a speech can do a speech, so restrictions with in the wedding party. Either then that all the girls are "considered equal" and work together.