Bridesmaids?

We're picking people that we're not likely to distance ourselves from or fall out with, and who we trust not to be nasty about the wedding at all. We also discussed early on that there would be no siblings in the wedding party because neither of us care to answer a million questions about why his heavily disabled brother wasn't best man or why I didn't put all of his sisters that I barely know (they all either moved far away or never visit) in my party. So now we can just pull out the "we just decided to keep it to friends only."

I picked girls that i know im going to talk too forever and that have been my friend for YEARS. like these girls i literally talk too every single day. i drifted a bit from one of them but we still talk weekly and get together when we can.

Make a list of all your friends you know and then start eliminating those that you feel won't fit your final. Base how many you do want to have standing up beside you. We chose based on who we knew best and making the time to be there. Also our MOHs put a buck & buck for us with the help of the other girls from the salon.

Take your time to really think about who you can't imagine getting married without! Also keep in mind; the bigger the bridal party, the pricier it'll be. I don't have a lot of close female friends either so I stuck with just my two sisters, who will be co-MOHs, and my FSIL, who will be a BM. If I'm being completely honest, I'm not super close with my FSIL and asked mostly because I felt obligated. And I've had some regrets.

I'm only having a MOH. She is my best friend for many years. I couldn't plan anything without her. It wouldnt be nearly as much fun

This is something you have to really think about and choose wisely. I would say to consider these things and pick the first people that come to mind.

- Who has been there for you the most?
- Who is most involved in your FH & your life?
- Who supports you no matter the situation?

I would ask yourself the question of who would you want standing beside you to REPRESENT you on the day of the wedding.

You would have to listen to your heart on this one. This is a time where you need to be selfish and picky & be sure the people standing beside you are forever girls.

This is definitely a decision that only you can make. Don't let anyone try and persuade you to choose certain people. Look at each person you are considering and ask if you can picture yourself getting married with them by your side.

Also consider what role you want them to play. I was pretty relaxed with mine because none of us live in the same area so having them come together to throw parties was a bit of a stretch. However, if you want your girls to plan the shower, or bachelorette, or whatever, select the ones that won't make you stressed out about getting things done. Also be up front with your expectations when you do ask them - that way they can judge if they'll be a good bridesmaid.

I agree with Tori and only ask people around the 1 year mark - you have 3 years until the wedding and a lot can change regarding friendships. I asked mine around a year and a half, but I just couldn't imagine getting married without them by my side.

View quoted message Thanks for the advice ladies ! I have a problem that I dont want to disappoint anyone...but choosing family makes sense !

For me it was pretty easy. I just have a few really close friends. So I chose them to be my bridesmaids and my FH's sister as one.

I chose my adult children. I have several close friends that would have been happy to stand with me as well, but wanted to honour my kids for supporting our relationship over so many years. This was their first time in a wedding party, so they came to me to ask what their roles were (we made it easy - no bachelorette, no shower). I had a few friends play some important roles in the day as well - one sang as I walked down the aisle, and one said grace at dinner. I agree with what others have said - try to ensure it's people that will support you and your day.

I picked people that I thought would be responsible, financially stable, and helpful/supportive. I know most times feelings get involved and you want to choose your best friends. But if you choose people just because you love them, you may end up having to take on too much and not enjoy your planning as much. If you know someone is flighty, jealous, disorganized, sometimes mean or dramatic. Do not choose them, they will make your life harder and that is the opposite of what a bridal party is meant to do.

Really make sure that you pick people who you are close to, who you want standing beside you on your big day, and who you can't imagine doing all the pre wedding events without.

Don't feel obligated to pick people just because someone else told you to.

I have my sister as my MOH and my 3 future sister in laws as my bridesmaids. Picking family was easier for me.

Well you've got time! I say don't for sure ask them until the 1 year mark or at least closer to the 1 year mark!!! Friends change even if you don't think they will - you never know when you will gain new friends and get super close to them or lose friends from a falling out! For sure wait until at least 2021 to ask people unless you are asking your FH's sister(s) or your sister(s).

Really stop and think about who the people are that you can’t picture getting married without. Who are you closest to? Try to block out any voices that tell you “oh you have to have your sister/FSIL/cousin/best friend/whoever” in your bridal party and choose who you genuinely want to have stand with you.

i chose my best friend as my MOH and my cousin as my bridesmaid. Since my FH has three groomsmen I for a while was troubling myself with trying to even things by choosing a third girl. Then I realized that whoever I chose I would be choosing them mostly for numbers and not because I genuinely felt very close to them.

I just chose my sister for my bridal party. Firstly, I don’t have many female friends, certainly none that close that I would consider having them stand with me on my wedding.

Secondly, I thought this would be the easiest way, only having to deal with one person, who is family.