I got engaged in July 2021 and am getting married July 2022! I am feeling the crunch.
I have one Bridesmaid who is hot and cold. She was so excited about my engagement, but now hardly talks to me. She is in a new relationship, starting school/placement while working casually on my unit. I used to think I was a good friend of hers as she confided in me with a lot of her personal problems - I’ve learned quickly that she is quite the drama Queen. She shares her personal problems in the work place, has been seen crying at work often over small issues, and complains often about many people to me while acting like their friend to their face. It made me wonder what I meant to her.
Although she agreed to be a bridesmaid, she had once told me she doesn’t have to be. Which I found confusing. I know where I stand with all my girls except her and it causes me anxiety. I’m constantly worried about how she’ll react , her opinions are strong, and she is high maintenance. She’s more excited about work gossip than asking about my wedding. It is just giving me bad vibes and encroaching drama. She is MOH for her childhood friend next year as well and she has cried and complained to me about that - it just comes off as a person who can’t simply be happy for someone else.
Anyway, I tried to have a discussion with her over the phone. She said she was busy and would call me back. She never did. So I texted her explaining that I wanted her to pour her heart into her MOH role in the other wedding, focus on school and her new relationship. That I think being a guest at my wedding could ease the stress, that I still love her and want her there - but spare her the nitty gritty planning/emotional support I need.
She has yet to respond and it’s making me so uncomfortable - case in point why I don’t necessarily want her as a bridesmaid. She is just causing me stress and anxiety.
I anticipate this will affect our relationship, but I’ve been noticing these changes for a while and am okay if she decides to be immature/angry with me. Im hopeful she can be supportive, but I have little faith now.