Bridesmaid dress issues

Hi Emily! really appreciate this timeline from the same designer! It definitely helps. I am going back to the dress shop today to talk more about the 3 week shut down and understanding the timeline more. Some girls feel they should have this time and pay after they start back up. But I think they should order asap as it gives them first come basis ahead of people who order after the start up.

Thank you Vinod! appreciate the feedback. There is 2 bm's that are in another wedding and I am in this wedding party as well. One of them is the bride and the dresses we had picked out were a $20 difference and I offered to pay that difference. I'm going to take that advice for sitting down with them and going over what I am expecting though. I am also have let people know if it ever becomes too much, can't do it financially anymore, or for any reasons they would like to step back I wouldn't have hurt feelings and understand.

Thoughts on having a meeting with the whole wedding party and making sure they understand this is what you want from them. Make up contracts for everyone to sign and agree that you have put down payments for them knowing they are responsible for the payment and if they choose not to pay back, give them an alternative and cut down your wedding party.

I'm really sorry you have to go this and it will change the way you look at the friendship you have with them during this process. Do understand that not everyone sees the same way of view as you and respecting your wish as a bride.

We took our MOHs shopping for their outfits and straight up from the beginning said we can't afford to pay for it as they saw fit what they could get for the amount they budgeted. End result was great and peaceful.

I wish you all the best and hope that the girls that haven't paid, do so and will learn from this experience as when they get married when their time comes.

That's so frustrating. I think weddings sometimes bring out the worst in people. At the end of the day they've agreed to be a part of your special day and just need to suck it up and do the minor things you're asking of them.

I'm really sorry to hear that about your wedding party. Are they all your friends/family?

You're right, just order the dresses and hope for the best.

It sounds like your dresses are coming from China (so that would explain the 3-week shut down for Chinese New Year). Is there any way you and your girls could find something else that isn't coming from over there/won't take as long?

I'm also dealing with my bridesmaid dress taking 4-5 months to come in, so it will be here JUST in time for some alterations before the wedding... ugh. It's just frusterating.

It seems odd that the store is telling you 6 months for bridesmaid's dresses... It could be the store/designer or the bridesmaid dress itself, but I was under the impression that bridesmaids dresses only take about 2-3 months to come in. They could also come in earlier than the 6 months depending on many factors.

If you heart is set on these particular dresses/designer I would order before the February 5th deadline. If not, I would maybe find a designer that isn't taking a 3 week hiatus, whose dresses might come in sooner than six months.