Bridesmaid drama

View quoted message Thank you ❤️ it's nice to know that other people have my back lol

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Oh well its for the better. you dont need that negativity when you should be jumping for joy!!

View quoted message She kicked herself out lol and our friendship is over because of something so petty. The other bridesmaids are a bit relieved because her energy was so negative which made things a lot more duffi

Jeeze that sucks! who cares if that person will be at the wedding she wont have to talk to them. ugh so much unnecessary drama! if shes not going to talk to you i would kick her out lol

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Wow! As if planning a wedding isn't stressful enough. I agree with the other ladies, it's a good thing all this came out before the day of the wedding. Remember the day is about you and your FH so if someone doesn't support you then they're better off not being involved at all.

Weddings seem to bring out drama unfortunately

Keep your head up girl!

View quoted message Exactly! Well she blocked and deleted me and my fiance so it's safe to say the friendship is over but it wasn't my doing. Life goes on with or without her!

Say bye bye and move on. You dont need that drama mama messing up your special day. Nobody is that important to cause you so much stress. I banned my own parents for this reason! You have more girls there who are more then happy to be in your bridal party

Wow, how old is this "friend" of yours? She's acting like a child and being completely ridiculous. If she wants to act like a lunatic and ignore you because of a guest, then I think you should just let her. You're still far out enough from your wedding that you can replace her in your bridal party or just leave the spot empty.

Omg don't give her another thought. If she's that upset over an ex friend being there she's got some of her own issues to sort out and you have enough to worry about without her being on your mind too.

I had some guests at the wedding who use to date others and broke up, people who weren't on good terms. You know what we did? We didn't sit them next to each other! THAT'S IT! If they can't act like an adult for one evening then that's their problem and not yours.

I definitely wouldn't waste any time of this girl. One of my bridesmaids was a little ticked an ex-friend was invited as a guest, but is still motivated to be a bridesmaid and a supportive friend at my wedding.

If she's willing to risk a friendship with you over an ex-friend, you don't need that.

I agree with everyone above. She made her decision to not support your wedding because of one person on the guest list. That’s her problem, not yours. It’s sad she doesn’t want to support and celebrate you, but someone else is willing and able.

Do not waste your time on this girl. If she has stated that she will not participate or attend your wedding then so be it. She is throwing a trantrum in the hopes that you will pick her side over her ex best friend which she will then hold over the ex friend. Move on and be thankful this happened now rather than later.

Bridesmaids do not get a say in the guest list. Point blank.

She sounds immature and selfish. She has already removed herself from the wedding by not responding to you. She's throwing a tantrum. This is not a good friend.

Drop her as a friend.

You don't need that in your life. She sounds immature, unsupportive, and selfish.

We're here for you though, so if anything comes of not inviting her to the wedding or her friend not being happy about it let us know and we'll come for her!! lol

I would dump her, if she can't realize that her ex is on your lists because hes a friend and they can't get past there differences for your sake then thats sad. You still have a long way to go and if shes acting like this now it will only get worse

I think you got lucky on this one for many reasons! One, this person is not a good friend. They are clearly selfish and driven by their own agenda. I’m really sorry you’re losing a friend but I would consider myself lucky!

also, she has basically done your dirty work for you and removed herself from the equation. You don’t need someone standing up with you who doesn’t pull their own weight! Or contribute at all!

It seems she has made her mind up and doesn't feel comfortable around the 1 individual in your wedding party. Let her be and wish you were there. Don't let this ruin your day as its just adding fuel to your planning.

This could be a blessing in disguise! use this opportunity to talk to her, and if she isn’t willing to be a mature adult, tell her you don’t think having her as a bridesmaid would be a good idea. you still have lots of time to add her back if she changes her tune!

View quoted message She already removed herself from the WhatsApp group before all of this and when I asked why she ignored my question and changed the topic. Now that this has come out I asked her again why she left and she said it's because everyone was annoying her and she doesn't like group chats. The rest of the bridal party are pretty much over her at this point.

View quoted message I tried to reach out to her but she won't answer my calls or messages. I've known the other person longer than I've known her and that person is best friends with one of my very close friends. I feel bad because if I don't invite her and invite her best friend she would be crushed as we all hang out together often. My MOH and FH both agree that the guest list should remain the same and if she wants to remove herself then so be it.

Wow. To be honest, that is very immature. It is your wedding day, and you can invite whoever you want.
I would be straight up with her and let her know that this guest will be invited, she does not have to talk to this guest or associate herself with this guest. If she cannot be mature and civil for one day, I would not have her as part of the wedding party, and just invite her. Then it would be up to her if she came or not.
Like Seleena said, that may cause more drama, but it will just have to be addressed right away

That is awful for her to do. I would either talk to her about it or maybe just remove her as a bridesmaid. Although that can cause other issues on its own.