Bridesmaid backed out.. future sister in law drama

I don't blame you at all for feeling hurt and not wanting her in the wedding party. If you put her back in she could also get upset again for some other reason and drop out again. your wedding party should be the people you are the closest with and not just people you feel obligated to include.

As long as you are civil with her at family functions that is all you need to do. If there's a rift in your relationship with you that she caused then it's up to her to mend it. It's reasonable for you to want her to personally apologize to you

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Completely behind on you about this! It's fine to be social with her but if she expects to be forgive then she is going to have to come to you. Just make sure it is known to her that this is what she would have to do (probably by getting your FH to tell her that's what you are waiting for).

I definitely wouldn't have her back in the wedding party, especially your side after what she did to you! If your FH really wants her up there, she can stand on his side!

My FH has a sister who's in my wedding party and if she did the same thing to me, she'd be out permanently and invited to attend the wedding as a guest.

See hubby is still upset that I wont speak to her very much. He got an apology for the way she acted towards him. I haven't got one yet for what she said and until I do I don't have a reason to speak to her other then if we are at his parents together

Your not wrong at all! She said those things and can't take it back. I wouldn't have her back either! If she can't stand with you as BM and support you as well as him then that's not good enough. Everyone standing up there is happy to be up there and support not just you but both of you.

You are 100% in the right!! As was mentioned above, your bridal party is supposed to be there to support YOU, not for you to support their drama!! Let her enjoy your wedding from the sidelines and you enjoy your wedding for YOU and your HUBBY!!

You are 100% right and don't go back on your word to let your SIL into your wedding party. The way I see it, she is family and not to do for her reasons, for you and hubby to be. Your the bride and do what you know is best without thinking twice about your decision.

I did get upset with 1 BM (Best Man) for my husband when he didn't want to get involved in the entrance practise when he said ok and backed out the last minute. Then after didn't want to give a speech and just felt he wasn't in it for me just because he is shy and not to say a few words knowing them since 5 years when I first met them.

Sometimes its sad what happens with others we know and how they just don't want to do what we ask of them. They are still good friends and all has been passed by after some time.

I think you are right.
Your wedding party should be there 100%, no matter what.
You do not need drama when it comes to your wedding.

I think you are totally right. Your bridal party is supposed to be people who love and support you and who want to be in it. Who is to say she won’t have another disagreement and back out again?
Its your choice and if you don’t want to change it all again then don’t

I don't think you are wrong. That was not right what she said. You are also way too close to your wedding to be changing things back and forth based on her relationship with your hubby. It is your day who you choose to stand next to you is your choice and you need to look out for your best interest.