Bridal Shower Negativity?

I didnt have any negative comments. But the unfortunate reality is that women and jealous and cruel. I did have issues with my sister in law when I first got engaged because she had recently gotten reengaged to my brother (they had been engaged for 8 years and never got married) and she wanted to get married first which would have meant I had to wait 3 years. Which was unfair. But its okay to be a little selfish and do what works for you. You are allowed to make yourself happy because chances are if you and your spouse dont do what you guys want you will regret it. This is a happy time. Ignore those who dont fully support you because they are just jealous of your happiness. Hope you have a great time.

Don't feel bad! Honestly the opening gifts is a normal at these events. sometimes people do activities first to break ice, and do the pin game through whole event, then say go get some food and do cake while bride opens gifts. I can understand you being hurt by the FH wives not coming! I have had people that I attend their bridal shower, bachorlette, wedding, baby shower and they opted not to come to mine.

I wouldn't feel bad at all! Everybody thinks those things - they just usually don't say them out loud... that's the rude part of this.

Just try and brush it off, you can think the same thing at their wedding showers or if they are already married - I'm sure they did the same thing. It's your turn!!! Don't feel bad!!

Oh my! That just sounds like people with jealousy issues or some kind of resentment regarding bridal showers. I've only been to a couple bridal showers but I have never felt that way at all. It's just a special day to "shower" that person with love, even if I am not close to them its always nice to see the brides loved ones doing so. I do not think you are being over sensitive, I feel like if I got that kind of feedback from the women in my life first hand, I would be sending my MoH and Bridesmaids after them lol. The best you can do is just try to kill them all with kindness and be as happy as you can be on the day of. I understand and get not liking to be center of attention, I always feel awkward about it BUT its a once in your lifetime situation so just embrace I think! Its nice that your mom organized that for you

I am sorry that you are having people say these things right out loud. I agree with Amanda, I have only said those things silently!

We are only asking for monetary gifts and not doing a registry, so hopefully the gifts are just cards, and I will open them afterwards with someone. We are keeping ours super low key and doing a small high tea. Its only my side of the family, and then FH sisters and mom.

I can only imagine there will be some backlash with that one, but sometimes people just need to complain about something.

It is a day just about you, and celebrating you, so you are not being sensitive at all. I agree with you in regards to attending others showers, and then they don't attend yours. Literally every shower I have been invited to I have gone to unless I had something else planned. Its just common courtesy to go to a shower when the person inviting you has gone to yours.

I only say those things silently. HAHA..

But seriously, I'm with you. I hate attention. I also really don't like showers BUT I have always gone to close friends' when invited or a bridesmaid and I have never ever complained about it - especially not to the bride... it's very rude.

We decided to have a shower because our wedding is so small and I wanted to celebrate with some people who couldn't come to the wedding and my friend insisted on doing everything. She has been telling everyone who rsvp's that we are not registered, but feel free to bring a gift just know that nothing will be opened during the shower infront of guests. We are also doing very minimal games.. It's more of a social gathering. I don't think you are being sensitive, I think it's rude for people to make comments like that to you.. if you don't support it, don't come. It's simple.