Bridal Party Plus Ones

I just think that some people are going through things in their life and may not feel comfortable just bringing a random guy. I would honour her choice and allow it, it may look funny (I understand where you are coming from there) but at least she'll be comfortable.

I think it's nice to allow those to bring a friend or companion as not everyone will know everyone. For me I like to know at least 1 or 2 ppl when going to a party/get together as I'm VERY shy and don't take the 1st step when it comes to socialization.

If they inform you before your cut off date of RSVPs then I believe you should allow them to bring their friend. However, after your final count and they then decide to bring one then sorry not going to happen. You have already provided your count to the venue(s).

For our wedding party we have 1 couple who are both a bridesmaid and a groomsman, than 3 are single, and than we have 3 who are attached. Those who are attached we will put them at the same table or at tables of people they know so they are not totally uncomfortable but our head table is already at 10-11 people with the flower girl. If there not attached or not serious with anyone we are not giving the option as we are already at 250 + people.

Thanks everyone for their feedback. Definitely keeps me in check of becoming a 'bridezilla' on this one.

I'm sure whoever she brings will be a lovely person.

I think if you are giving her a plus one then you have to honour that, no matter her choice of date. It may not be what you had intended but if she is happy and it doesn't really change anything for you in the grand scheme of things, then just let it go.

I would put yourself in their shoes. Spending a whole day at a wedding sitting on your own just because you aren't in a serious relationship. You made the choice to have their partners at the head table but I don't think you should designate who. It's a tough call I get it. We have a small bridal party just best man and MOH. Best Man and MOH have both been divorced twice and don't really want to be display, one with a boyfriend and the other with no date. So we decided, they can sit with their significant others/families, close to us at the head table. Fine by me. Frankly I wish I could do it too. I really dont like the idea of 225 people watching me eat! Lol

If she wants to bring someone let her. Although our wedding parties are usually our closest pals, they are doing a favour for us. Being in a wedding costs time, money, and a whole lot of effort. She should not be prevented from bringing a date just because she is not in a relationship... This is kind of single-shamey and rude in my opinion.

Another way of looking at it/thinking of it is maybe that bridesmaid doesn't want to feel like the "third" wheel at a table filled with couples, so this is why she is bringing a +1 that she may not have otherwise.

View quoted message

We aren't giving plus ones to anyone else invited, EXCEPT if that person is dating someone seriously/married. We're defining seriously by if they were dating when save the dates went out - which was about 10 months before our wedding.

We were going to make an exception for the bridal party, but it really was only intended for if they started dating someone prior to the wedding..

Are you giving other single guest (who aren’t in your wedding party) a plus-one option? If yes, then it might be rude to tell your bridesmaid she can’t just bring s buddy. However, if you are not allowing plus-ones, you can kindly explain to her that the gesture was meant for a date/if she happens to be dating someone when your wedding comes along.

Good luck!