Both parents walking you down the aisle?

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Another good idea, thank you, Vinod! I will definitely consider her walking me partially down the aisle. Thank you!

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Haha - too funny that she thought she would be in the middle!

That's a good point with the siblings part... I do have my brother that she would be seated with. So many things to consider!

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Do you have ushers, or does your fiance have any siblings that could escort her?

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That's the part that gets me - we aren't having a traditional wedding, so should I even be hung up on this one traditional aspect? Glad to hear someone else has elected to break the tradition though.

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That definitely makes sense since your Mom raised you alone for so long. It's nice that you've asked them both to walk you down the aisle!

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That sounds like an interesting compromise, Brittany. I will definitely consider that! Thank you!

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Thanks, Amanda! I hope she understands!

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That makes sense - thank you! I really like the idea of emphasizing the fact that she has quite a few 'special moments' with me that my Dad has no part in, and all I really have with him is walking down the aisle and the first dance (which she also wants to have for herself... but that's another story.)

If you envisioned it to be just your Dad than leave it that way. It is your day after-all and you want to remember it the way YOU want it.

Personally I am walking with both my parents but that ONLY because my parents divorced when I was 10 years old and my Mother was who my brother & I loved with most of the time. So I feel as if she was a mother & father to me, so I have both my Father & Mother walking me down the aisle. If that was not the case though, I would have 100% just had my father walk me down the aisle.

This happened to my sister when she got married- like the night before during rehearsal my mom got extremely upset. It stressed my sister out a lot as well. My sister ended up doing it and it went fine. However, depending on your location if its too squishy, I am getting married in a church and the isle isn't big. I would like the traditional aspect of it and understand she had just as much or did more growing up but I also don't want to be squished or feeling like i can't fix myself if needed. It honestly depends on how you feel and if any concerns.

Its hard to not ask one parent though the traditional aisle walk is with the father only. Since you mom wants to be part of it, let her.

A way to corporate both parents is to have your mother walk you down halfway and then have your father take you full way after. Alternative is having both parents walk you down if that will make them both happy and come to a compromise.

I am in the same boat as you 100%!

For me, it came up when we were looking into the processional. I asked my mom what song she wanted to walk down the aisle to and who she wanted to have escort her to her seat. She nearly lost it because she said she wanted to accompany my dad and I.

Also, my mom thought SHE was going to be in the middle if they both walked me down the aisle *facepalm* She didn't mean anything by it, she was just clueless haha.

I'm still a bit torn by it, but I don't have any siblings so I don't want to leave my mom by herself either. So I'm probably going to have them both walk me down the aisle!

I'm going to be asking both my parents. I'm quite close with my mom and the tradition of it only being dad isn't important to me at all.

My mom and stepdad are both walking me down the aisle. It was important for me as my mom raised me as a single mom for many years so I felt she deserved to walk with me and my stepdad.

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Same! and my mom is being super petty about it. I think most of her motivation is that the divorce was on awful terms.. so she is just trying to take away from his moment.

I am sort of compromising by having my mom stand at the end to join in "giving me away".

I also fibbed a little and said my photographer said it is really hard to get good photo's with 3 people moving and coordinating..

I asked both to walk me down the aisle and my mom was very surprised. but it was my choice. don't do anything for someone else. if your dream is to have just your dad then stick to it.. she will understand..

My mom did the same thing! super awkward especially because my parents are divorced hahaha i talked to my mom about it and told her exactly what you said - i’ve always envisioned having that moment with my dad, and that he’s likely always envisioned the same. I also told my mom that she gets special moments like the dress shopping and getting ready the moment of, so my dad should get his own special moment walking me down the aisle