Biggest lesson learned while wedding planning + advice?

The biggest lesson I learned from the planning process is drama from the family and husband to be at the time to absorb while trying to keep positive about everything going smoothly. It wasn't easy and to say the least remarks from my parents home going into my home and fiance then to say something about it too. Another lesson is to not take away from cultural wedding despite of it being gay or not; and missing out on the aspects of pre events while watching others go through it.

Hi everyone! thank you all so much for your advise and sharing your experiences. I enjoyed reading each one. I really appreciate it all and will keep them all in mind!

I agree with everything everyone is saying, including Carmel. I really had to learn it the hard way with stressing about guests list with my family. And with choosing my wedding dress at first. I listened to what my father had to say (he came at my first dress shopping and he’s so old school). Bought the dress, kept thinking about it over and over. So I went again to another shopping with mum when she was looking for her dress. And I found the best dress for me (was the only one left— perfect size for me and everything. That eased my stress after. Haha!


But yeah, remember it’s you and your fiancé’s big day. Don’t let anyone else stress you out for no reason. Make sure you have a day of coordinator, it helps a lot. Depends on the time you want to start your ceremony, don’t let them delay your time. They delayed my time because “enough people were not there yet”. And I did not have my phone on me, my day of coordinator had mine. I guess they didn’t want me to stress. But yeah. Just realize little things that don’t go your way won’t wreck your day with your SO.
Happy planning and take self-care day. I wish I did! Ahha

Take breaks from wedding planning! That has really helped my stress management!

There are so many things you can't control so be prepared for things to go wrong. Just remember most people won't notice so once the day hits you'll have to go work the flow. Instead of stressing do your best to be in the moment and enjoy the love around you....

Remember at the end of the day it's your big day... it's what you want and people should understand that and enjoy every moment!! The day will fly by so fast

Just enjoy every moment of planning and don't let other people voice what should happen. It's you and your fiance's big day not theirs! And don't let the little things stress you out! My fiance and I have had to postpone twice thanks to covid and we've learned to just remember that this is OUR wedding day and the day will come

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Remember that hiccups won't ruin your perfect day!

This!

Like said below, don't ask for opinions or discuss options with anyone except your fiance unless you really want opinions. To keep friends and family in the loop just let them know the decisions that have been made - you can't change those usually haha. Try not to stress, there's a lot to do at the beginning and then most things can be done slowly or can't be done until closer to. Remember that hiccups won't ruin your perfect day! We had some things go wrong but it didn't matter at all and it was the absolute best day!

Enjoy every moment of planning, and you and your fiancés opinions are the ones that mean the most.
I was getting to many opinions on things and I got extremely overwhelmed about things and it made it very hard for us to make decisions.
Happy wedding planning! 🤍💍