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Whew! I solved it this am. Called him. Said what colour of shirts do you own….he said they are way at the back of the closet and he’d look. I mentioned the tie he said A TIE! I said where if for me for the pictures to make me happy because you know how I love to scrapbook….I think we’ve reached a compromise!
Just wow, Like why are they making such a big deal for a few hours then they can change, and so what if it's partially their yard it's your wedding and they agreed to all of it. Are they not interested in seeing you getting married?
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I don’t think it’s a money thing. We aren’t young & broke. I think it’s a attitude. My partner is feeling cautious about offending him because we our using our combined yards for the reception. Now his teenage kids are apparently bringing their boyfriend and girlfriend, as his daughter said ‘it’s in our backyard’.
I got most back lash from men not wanting to dress up , luckily not in our wedding party but like my fiancés dad was not interested in dressing up. As a best man I think he can take one day for the bride and groom who have so graciously chosen him to stand by them on the biggest, most important day! Boggles my mind. It’s not like your asking him to wear a bikini top. It’s a shirt and tie. Set the specifics early of everything you would like and need him to do and if he doesn’t want to do it then he doesn’t need to be apart of it at all! it’s better than arguing and trying to compromise on everything little thing he doesn’t like. Maybe I’m harsh haha 🤷🏼♀️😬 I just think it’s ridiculous when you aren’t asking very much of him
Well being the bestman it's a given that he has to wear what the groom wants him to wear, I would just say this is the dress code, we are giving them the option of tie or bow tie. If they don't want to wear the outfit then they can step down from the roll for someone who would be proud to stand up and not care what they have to wear. the fact you are allowing them to wear whatever after, then he can suck it up.