Bachelorette Rsvp: To remind or not to remind, that is the question

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I hadn't thought of changing the RSVP answers! That's such a great idea - Thank you for your feedback and ideas

Would you be open to having the following responses : definitely yes, unfortunately no, planning on being there. And put a firm yes or no closer to the actual trip date.

I personally would not feel comfortable to rsvp yes this far out if it also meant financially commuting to the event. It's a long time for plans to change and if I had to back out at least no one is left in a tough spot if they were expecting me to help split costs.
If it was say 3-4 months out I would probably be ok saying a firm yes or no but almost a year out not a chance.

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Good point, well made. Maybe I'll ask if they need more time.

A reminder never hurt anyone! Once the deadline closes, you can send them a note asking them to reply yes or no, and that you need to know soon in order to book accommodations. I think some people have forgotten (Honestly, I forgot to RSVP to all 3 weddings this summer with an online RSVP! I was thankful for the reminder from the couple!), some people think you only have to reply if you're going, and some people probably still have some things to work out. I know for my work, I don't get my vacation days until Feb, and they wouldn't be approved until March, so some people might find it hard to commit early due to work scheduling.

View quoted message Maybe I should word it that way, when I reach out to them! Thank you!!

It's never pressuring them TO ATTEND, it's a reminder to let you know yes or no so you can start working on your plans! I would send a reminder! If some aren't sure yet they should reach out to you privately to ask for more time maybe?

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Yeah, between flights and accommodations, I'm just trying to save a pretty penny and break down the cost so that it doesn't suffocate some of the girls! Thanks for your feedback!

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Oh I like the way you think!! Thank you!

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Thank you, I'll definitely keep that in mind. Yeah, I know it's super far away still, but between flights and accommodations, I'm trying to help spread out the cost so that I'm not imposing a lump sum on the girls.

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I am trying to give my friends time to figure out their situation (financially), to see whether they can commit to a weekend in Palm Springs.

We all live in different cities (East Coast, West Coast and some in the middle!) and have to book flights and accommodations. I would like to have a final number of girls as soon as possible, so that I can start looking at either hotels, but more realistically a house/condo that could fit all of us. Three houses that would've been perfect are already gone

I also want to avoid a situation I was in not too long ago where the bride-to-be organized her bachelorette party, assumed that everyone would come and imposed an unrealistic price tag ($1,200 up front, just in one payment). When everybody bailed, she had to cancel her bachelorette party and ignored us until after the wedding.

Is there a reason you need RSVPs now for an event in June of next year?

TBH, I probably wouldn't RSVP this early for something like that because I just don't know what my spring/summer is going to look like yet at this point. I wouldn't want to RSVP for a bachelorette party only to find a wedding invite for that same weekend in the mail 6 months from now...

At least wait until the deadline you set, and being that June is still quite far away, people just likely don't know yet their plans or financial ability to go.

You want people to RSVP now for June of next year? I think most people don’t think they have to do anything about for it a long time since it’s so far away. Some people may not be able to tell you yes or no.

I think you should wait til the deadline, then on the Sunday (the 16th), send out a notice saying you will need to push forward with plans, and you hope anyone interested in participating has RSVP'd... then if people still don't answer, it's not your fault to move forward assuming they aren't coming.

RSVP's are a nightmare.... Least favourite part of planning thus far.. Good luck!

I wouldn't but that's because it's still so far away. I would say to see about going out for coffee with them and bring it up in person as to not seem too eager or pushy or whatnot. (Of course if any of them are not within driving range then I would just send a little text and start asking how they are and then mention "Oh hey - so for the bachelorette - oh wait, are you coming to that?" and then get the answer, and then "ok so for it.... blah blah blah".

Something easy breezy.