Bachelorette party with future mother in law?

Like Marcia said, it really depends on your bachelorette party plans, and who you intend to invite in the first place.

I'm not having a bachelorette party; however, when I think of them, I think about family/friends closer in age to the bride who are also close to her. In other words, I don't think of mothers or mother-in-laws.

But if you're going to a spa, for example, I don't see why not unless you two don't get along. Obviously if there will be male strippers involved, that may be uncomfortable for your mother-in-law.

Thank you for everyone’s opinion here!! I’m happy that I’m not alone not inviting FMIL.

I think it depends on what are your plans for your bachelorette party, and who you want to invite for YOUR bachelorette party. If you don't want to invite her, I wouldn't then! I won't be inviting my future mother-in-law to my bachelorette party.

I think it depends on the relationship and what your plans are. My mother and FMIL were both at my bachelorette. We went bowling in the afternoon and then out for cocktails and dinner. I was completely fine to have them both there and enjoyed their company.

If it is not what you want though that is totally fine. It is YOUR bachelorette and people should respect your wishes.

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Then don't invite her. It's YOUR bachelorette party and you should be able to enjoy it to the fullest.

I only had my bridesmaids there. I would never have wanted my mom or MIL there. That's more for a bridal shower (which I didn't have) as it would be more laid back and appropriate for them to be there.

Like others said though, I guess it really depends on the relationship you have with her.

View quoted message Me and FH’s mom are good. We went shopping together before, twice I think. i like her but it’s just no for my Vegas party.

View quoted message Oh no. Well if she is going, let’s hope she will pay for you.

I'd invite MY mom but never my FH's mother. I guess it all depends on the relationship though.

My MOH did I think. I have no idea what is happening though! I said I didn’t want to have the moms there but it sounds like she did invite them.

View quoted message Yesss I feel better now. It’s just different. It MY time, my moment. I want to share with my friends not her.

I personally say no. I love my FMIL. but I don't want her at my bachelorette. at all. I wouldn't even want my mom. maybe for part of it. say you were doing the spa in the afternoon and then out at night invite to the spa part. but BIG no for me! haha

View quoted message Then I think it’s fine to not invite her. I will invite my FMIL to my bachelorette party, even if it was in Vegas. But not everyone has that type of relationship with their FMIL and I get that. I would first talk to your FH and see how he feels about you not inviting her. Does it bother him, or does he not care.

View quoted message No. It’s too much culture differences for my mom. If I took my mom to a night club, she probably would have a heart attack. (We moved to Canada when I was young but she moves back to China now)

Is your mom going?

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Hmm, see, that's tough. I'd say it would depend on what you plan on doing there. Strip clubs, and drunk pool parties, or shopping and spas?

If you're comfortable enough with your FMIL, I'd just sit down and talk with her about it!

View quoted message Want to go Vegas. I hope she understands because future sister in law’s bachelorette party was in Vegas too.

It depends on what you're doing, and your relationship with them, in my opinion - Dinner out? Sure. Dancing all night long? Maybe not.