Bachelorette Parties!

I'm probably not having a bachelorette. I moved to Alberta 13 years ago, and I don't have many close friends out here. My bridesmaids are all my childhood friends in Ontario, and the large majority of my guests are from Ontario also.

I'm mostly okay with it, but my fiancé's friends are planning to have a bachelor party for him even though it's his second marriage (he also had a bachelor party before his first wedding). I secretly wish his friends would plan a joint bachelor/ette party for us both.

We live in Alberta and our wedding is in newfoundland, we have a lot of people potentially traveling. 3/5 of my bride crew live in the same town and the other 2 are in newfoundland.

i gave the ladies the option to do whatever they please whether one be here and another there or what have you. just to make sure its on a weekend FH is off so someone has the kiddos looked after. i also mentioned to the ladies if there is a bachelorette in NL to make sure someone has a list of which aunties and cousins i would like there.

i have zero line of sight into whats going on or will be happening.

We are starting out at dinner all together and then the girls and I are going to go out and live our best life while the boys are boring doing dumb boy stuff!! I've spoken to my wedding party, and they know me well enough and have enough time to put something together, I gave them ideas of what I think would be the best for me and since we're all pretty close and enjoy the same kind of fun stuff I trust them not to take me to church and find jesus when I should be dancing covered in glitter and flashing man bits.

If you find that your party is okay working together, drop em some ideas, if you feel like you know what's best plan it and be like this is what I need help with to get them involved that way they are still part of the planning, and you know what the plan is

My maid of honor planned everything. I had 2 bachelorettes. The first one my maid of honor and I went to Avril Lavigne in May and then in July my maid of honor and one other girlfriend of mine we went down to the Calgary stampede for the weekend and saw Nelly, Steven Lee Olsen, Kaskade and Flo Rida!

Other than a few ground rules, I let the gents plan my party without me interfering.

My ideal plan is to go to a potery store and paint something, then get lunch, and get pampered nails, massage, toes, then a fun night at a hotel relaxing in the pool or hot tub, watch movies and go to bed.

My MOH has different ideas and won't tell me what it is.

My MOH and bridesmaids are planning everything! The only input I've given is places we could go, things we could do, and the overall vibe. I told my MOH I don't want to know where we go just tell me where and when to show up, what to pack, and I'll be there!

I opted out of doing one but my close girlfriend had her bridal party plan a weekend away at a cottage and on the final night we did a dinner outdoors with candles and lights. Her fiancé at the time did a weekend away hunting with the boys.

I let my bridal party plan my bachelorette with my input. The original plan was a weekend I banff the weekend before the wedding (to allow out of town guests to attend the bachelorette and wedding in one trip) but we were a bit concerned about the risk of getting sick a week before the wedding due to covid. So they planned something in the town I live in. We started at bridesmaid house for some drinks and games then a limo picked us up and we went to a couple pubs! It was lots of fun!

That sounds great! We both decided to opt out of the bachelor/bachelorette parties since it's our second marriage and we only have MOH & BM in our party. Me and MOH are spending the night away and treating it like a girls getaway but not much going on.