Bachelor party

I think a week is a bit much and a resort (I think you mean tropical) is pretty over the top.

I'm totally all for bachelor/bachelorette parties but I think they should be a night out or maybe a weekend if you're going on a little roadtrip. Leaving the country seems a little extravagant when there's a wedding to pay for and already time needed off of work coming up with the wedding.

My FH and I will both be having weekend getaways - I *think* my girls have planned a wine tour weekend in a resort town a couple hours away and I imagine the guys will go to Montreal or rent a cabin for the weekend. I trust him implicitly, I just wouldn't see the need for an entire week away at a resort.

My fiance and I haven't had a chance to travel together really, so him going away for a week to a resort without me would seem like a slap in the face. Also, it's a bachelor party, it's supposed to be a night/day out... Maybe a weekend if they go somewhere. Not an entire vacation without you.

I've been living with my FH for 5 years, so having his "last hurrah" doesn't make sense to us. He has even agreed the thought of a major hangover already has him doubting the kind of bachelor party he wants.

Maybe even a Jack & Jill trip away? And have a night or two that the girls and guys stay on opposite ends of the resort? Or go out to different places for one big party night, but then you get to enjoy the rest of the week together.

Nope- only because I know full well what would happen and I'd be furious.

my bachelorette party is gonna be a simple, quiet bonding time with my bridesmaids- i refuse to party all night/get drunk and all the stereotypical BS associated with these things.

I'm glad I don't need to deal with this, because, even though I trust my FH, I don't necessarily trust everyone else. My FH and I both agreed no bachelor or bachelorette parties because it's really just a scenario that invites trouble.
We also don't really feel the need to make the most of our "last single party " as we've been living together for quite awhile, so its like we're married already. Also, we do what we want when we want socially, and marriage isn't going to change that, so it seems like it would be money wasted for no reason.

That being said, IF I was in the scenario... I wouldn't LOVE it... But I'd probably tolerate it.

Besides making sure it fits in our budget and isn't around any important dates, he would have 'carte blanche'. I trust him 100%.

I agree with everyone else! I totally trust my husband, but If he was taking a full week I’d have some questions about taking time off and the cost of the trip with the wedding coming up soon! 😋

My husband did 3 days in New Orleans with 20 guys, and I did a 3 day weekend in Vegas with 12 girls!

Of course. I wouldn’t even think twice.

My husband went away for a 3 day weekend to the US for brewery tours and such with the guys for his bachelor party. I had no problems with it other than I missed him lol. If he had gone for a week I wouldn't have cared except for the expense and the timing (his bachelor was the weekend before we got married). I think if you trust your partner then there shouldn't be a problem.

I would be a bit miffed - ONLY because he’s a student and the wedding costs have almost been 100% on me (so far). But if he wanted to do a weekend away or something I would be ok. Jealous, but ok! Lol

My FH is planning to go to Montreal for a weekend for his bachelor party. The only issue I have with this is the cost right before the wedding. His groomsman have said that they’re going to pitch in to cover some of the cost so if that’s the case I’m all for it!

Do u trust his group of friends his going with?
I trust my FH and his group of friends so if he decide to go for 1week I'll be ok.

As long as you trust your FH and his friends you shouldn't worry. Unless if you need him for planning or budget wise it's not convenient then speak to him.

My bachelorette is a week in Dominican and my fiancé was talking about doing a week away with the guys possibly or a 4 day thing. I know my fiancé and I trust him enough to marry him, if I wasn't able to trust him on vacation I wouldn't be marrying him...

Weekend yes. Hell 4 days even. 7? Meh.

I agree with Bianca that a week is a bit long. My FH is considering going away and also went for his best friend's bachelor party and it was 5 days only. He face timed me every day too lol I'm honestly fine with what he chooses whatever makes him happy.

But with all our opinions the different responses are based on our relationships. What is it about this trip that concerns you? Maybe we could help talk you through that.

I’d be comfortable with him going away for a week with the guys. Financially it doesn’t make sense right now so that would be the only concern I would raise.

Id be fine with it! But wouldnt work in our current situation.... I think my FH will end up doing a camping trip with all his buddies for 2 or 3 nights about 2 weeks before the wedding. Which should give him enough time to recover before the wedding if he hurts himself doing something stupid like he normally does haha.

I'd be 100% ok with this. But then again, I don't care if they have strippers lol it's his bachelor party, I want him to have fun. I'd be jealous he's going away though haha

I agree with what some of the ladies said I’d be comfortable because I trust him but I’d be jealous lol I also don’t think that the bachelor/bachelorette parties need to be a week long it’s too expensive!

Yeah, why not?

I mean, the guys he hangs out with are all married guys who i totally trust ( i trust my husband too). I'd just be jealous that they were going away for a week.lol.

Hopefully, if you're getting married, you have a level of trust with one another that you wouldn't do anything to jeapordize the relationship or make your partner unhappy. My FH was talking about doing Vegas for 4 days and I did have a problem with, but only because:

1. It's expensive! Our wedding is pricey and we have also booked a large 3 week honeymoon that costs quite a bit as well.

2. One of his groomsmen is getting married as well this year, and another one just bought a house! I thought the cost of the trip could put them into a really awkward situation and I thought it was important to be considerate to them.

3. If he was doing vegas, he could have his groomsmen go, but none of his other buddies most likely would have gone.

He decided to do a weekend away to a cabin with 7 buddies. They'll do white water rafting and drink and hopefully all come back alive.

A whole week? No, but only because of our current situation it wouldn't work. A weekend or a few days yeah sure why not. But my fiance hates leaving me for any kind amount of time so he insists that IF he has a bachelor party it will only be a be night thing. If we do a weekly thing it will be the whole wedding party, both sides. Make it a group trip.

Yeah I would be fine with that. As I know my man and he would NEVER do anything that he would regret.

I wouldn't be comfortable because my FH travels so much that I think he's had more than enough fun! A week away is a long time for a bachelor party imho and I think maybe a weekend would be more appropriate.

I would be totally fine with it. I would however be insanely jealous that I wasn't getting a vacation! Haha!

That's a big bachelor party! It all depends on the trust level and his friends. What type of friends he has. Personally with my guy I would be fine with it. I just don't think he needs a week away before hand and that's a lot of costs on the guys if they are planning to pitch or asking him to pay for himself.