Awkward situation

You're welcome. I hope all works out.

Thank you Jen

This is crunch time for wedding planning! So, if I were you, I'd show up at her place when I know shes home and force her to talk. If you don't resolve whatever tiff she has against you then you need to cut her and move on with planning. You don't need that kind of stress.

No problem! It may motivate her to actually respond and if not, you can feel free to move forward with other arrangements knowing that you gave her an opportunity and she let it pass by.

Thanks Andrea, i think i'll take your advice and do exactly that

Maybe give her a concrete deadline? Something like "I know you may have needed some personal space after the job referral situation, but I really need to know by (insert date here) whether you still plan to take care of the shower because if you are not, I need to get help from someone else to make arrangements". It's not about her personally, but time is going to keep on marching regardless of her hurt feelings and you can't be stuck because of that.

Mutual friend thinks i'm worried about nothing, and she just needs time to vent. My wedding is 5 months away not sure whats the right amount of time to let someone vent?

I would suggest stopping by her house to talk or getting a mutual friend to set up a lunch where you can all talk. You cannot let this go on any longer if she is supposed to be planning things to do with your wedding.