Are Wedding Crasher Plates Necessary?

I am reminding everyone, some have shown us the curiosity by sending the RSVP even if it's send through on Photo on Texting. But I won't let people showing up later that's not going to happen. What's important is they show you Curiosity on being a good person and being on time. This is why we have a Security Guard one of reasons why. When the place cards are no longer on the table, that's it. I also have a no list with others that aren't on the Wedding invites also. I wish you all the best don't let people walk all over you it's your Special Day.

Um no. If people don't RSVP then you can call them to confirm their attendance just to be safe.. sometimes mail gets lost etc. Anyone who shows up without saying they were shouldn't be staying in my opinion.

you should not have to pay for 'what if'

I completely forgot about feeding the vendors! Thanks for reminding me!

I don't think you should plan for guests that can't bother to RSVP (my FH and I constantly reminded people about the approaching RSVP deadline 6 weeks out, a month out, 1 week prior, and even calling people the night before... we did make the RSVP deadline 2 weeks before our final meeting with the caterer though). I have never been to a wedding that has run out of food (maybe some of the good stuff, but never all of it!). Having said all this, our caterer is not providing plates (cheaper to get them separate), and we are renting a few extra plates (in case something happens in travel/at the reception). My FH is also convinced that someone will show up that didn't bother to RSVP (which is my biggest pet peeve).

**Don't forget you need to feed some of your vendors (DJ, photographer/s, bartender/s)! They usually write this in the contract, but I've just been confirming with them at our meetings regardless.

Thanks everyone! I appreciate the feedback... both my step-mom and mom have been asking about this scenario (I think they worry stems from the awkward seating situation). I just don't feel like it should be expected of us to pay for dinner for people who couldn't bother to tell us they were coming. Especially if I follow up in the last month leading up to the wedding.

I had seen a few place cards that have said, "Didn't RSVP but showed up anyways," and while I wish I was that petty, I also would rather save the money on plates that may not be used.

I might put something like this on the website lol

I had 1 guest (indicated as 1) and he brought his bf and mother for the reception rudely and had to feed them as my numbers were 75. My husbands brother didn't show up the day of the wedding and called the next day after everyone checked out. He was heading over and was bringing his companion and friends without consulting us in the beginning.

Don't feed the wedding crashers since they weren't invited in the first place and they are not getting a meal on your expense.

I am going to set a few extra seats... maybe.. not sure. I plan to follow up with people who haven't RSVPd to ensure they know we need it to let the venue know exact numbers!

You do not have to and should not accommodate for your guests that didn't RSVP. Like everyone else, I agree with Tori and you will have to make those calls.

Definitely not. I think friendly reminders to RSVP for those that haven't is common. We all get busy and forget things so I would expect there to be several people who don't RSVP by the date you have requested. Accommodating a couple of friendly reminders to RSVP is a nice courtesy. Spending money needlessly on crasher plates isn't required.

This, 100% this!!!

The whole point of the RVSP is to know how many people are coming. I'm not going to have dinner waiting for someone who crashes, in fact this is more my philosophy:

If you don't RVSP, or RVSP no but then show up, supply your own food and chair. If someone wants to wait until the last minute, don't expect me to change my seating chart for you. At that point, come after the food if you're coming at all.

Absolutely not. That is what the RSVP is for. IF someone shows up without RSVPing or saying no on their RSVP, they should be turned away. If you are worried about this from certain guests, is there someone you can assign to be your "security guard" on that day? One of bridesmaid has already volunteered for this position (more of a joke then anything else) but I like the idea of knowing shes got our backs should we get crashers.

Tori hit the nail on the head.

For me it's a hands-down no - I am spending way too much per plate to account for anyone who didn't RSVP or RSVP'd no. I will be calling everyone who doesn't RSVP at all, but if they don't know if they're coming when the day is a month away, they're not getting a meal.

I agree with Tori on this one!

I've never heard of this! I don't think you should pay for additional plates "just in case". What if you don't have anyone crash your wedding? Then you're out potentially hundreds of dollars. If people don't RSVP "yes" and choose to show up anyway, they'll be the ones dealing with the repercussions.

Well.... here are my thoughts:

First off, if they don't RSVP at all - you gotta call them and get that answer. If they tell you "they don't know, it may be a last minute thing", tell them that in that case you will have to put them down as a no. This is where you can tell them if they do last minute decide to come then they are to come after supper at _____(insert time here)_____.

If they RSVP as no and then show up - you turn them away. I don't accept that kind of thing. Not cool. This is where the GM can step in and tell them to come back in an hour or two.