Anyone else feeling this way?

Same though! I’m just being hopeful everything will be okay.

I definitely can relate to all the comments to this post. With Christmas just around the corner , I'd be so excited to see family and discuss with the ladies in my family wedding plans, that won't be happening this year . I feel like I can't talk about it because people right away say nothing will be different next year and that they wish me luck . I just keep things to myself and plan away in my Pinterest haha. It's nice to see such wonderful ladies/men being so positive on here and giving others a place to vent how they are feeling. I really hope that next year brings change and positively for all of us and that when our special day arrives it'll be as perfect as we imagined it may be different but still memorable. ❤️❤️

You are definitely not alone! I’m a pretty easy going, go with the flow type of person but I’m also organized and prepared. So I am really struggling planning for next summer.
My girls are all spread across the province so getting all together without covid would have been challenging. Only my mom and future mother in law came when I tried on dresses, which I didn’t mind. I went with all my girls when they tried on dresses (separate outings though).
I don’t want to postpone and won’t be (unless literally forced). But I feel for my fiancée who was looking forward to a stag and doe event (which won’t be happening). I won’t know until much closer how many people will come and therefore what space we will be allowed in and what restrictions we’ll have. I’ve put a pause on wedding planning in that aspect. We have all our vendors lined up, working on attire and that is really all at this point. I haven’t had many people telling me it’ll be a story for grandkids but I have had people being extremely optimistic saying everything will be normal then which I don’t fully believe and in turn gets my hopes up. In fact I just don’t even think about any of those aspects of the wedding or planning right now. Only think about what I can control no matter what - attire, our first dance....Just have to remind myself at the end of the day it’s about the love and connection my fiancé and I have. It our day and a milestone in life together. None of you are alone, we’re all in this together. It’s definitely testing but you’ll get through it and it will still be special because of your love.

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Exactly, to be honest I am so tired of hearing things like that! No it's not a "funny story" to tell, it's a bloody nightmare. 90% of people that say "oh it's a story" or "oh maybe just get married anyway without a wedding" are ALREADY married and don't ever have to worry about this, they had their day! They got all the months of prep and excitement and were able to celebrate everything with friends and family.

A little empathy would be nice rather then "oh well, it's just about love!" like yes, I KNOW but what if this happened to you 1-10 years ago at your wedding? Yeah I think you'd be pretty upset too.

I have been getting that a lot recently with "so when is your wedding again?... oh, hopefully that works out" like yeah... lol However, I'm not sure where you live but I have a good feeling that June weddings brides will be in a somewhat better position in April/May next year. Here's hoping!

View quoted message So tough! Big hugs your way❤️ And I hope it all works out

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I hope your wedding gets to go through as close to your original plan as you hoped ❤️
I have a plan A(original plan no covid )plan b (less people same plan or with a few restrictions )And a plan c (where we can only have a handful of people)I feel a bit ridiculous having so many plans but you gotta do it in today’s world

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I agree with you 100% I want all these things too! Sure a wedding is about getting married....we all know that...but we are still allowed to be mad that this whole experience got taken away. I am soooooo sick of hearing "but what a story to tell your grandkids one day"....ya...greattttt....but what about what we want for our wedding day, the whole celebration etc. We sent out our save the dates 2 weeks ago (June 26 2021 wedding date) and I got so many replies like "got your save the date, really hope it pans out for you". UGHHHHHHHHH

Yes, yes, so much yes!
I’ve been struggling too. My fiancé and I are pretty much the last couple on both sides of friends to marry and we’ve been together 9 years! I have been looking forward to this FOREVER! We planned for a longer engagement (engaged July 2019, getting married May 1, 2021) but I through myself into planning right away and got a lot accomplished by February.

I feel robbed all of the time by the state of the world. Thankfully, I got to attend a bridal show with my girls in Jan before lockdown but my bridal shower and bachelorette likely won’t happen how I envisioned them. All of the fun little activities and experiences leading up to the big day will I’ll not be same.
However, last night we had a meeting with our venue and they were SO amazing! They are so incredibly supportive and willing to be flexible to give us the best version of our day possible, whatever we choose. It was really what I needed to get excited again. Maybe you can set up a meeting with your venue and get some answers to the “what if” questions you are having.
I have grieved my original wedding vision. As a type A person, I have 6 contingency plans. I have come to terms with that (some days is easier than others) and this has helped me cope.
Our day will be special because we are getting married (on our 10 year anniversary)! It won’t be how we envisioned it totally, but it will still be special. And, I’ll likely get to wear my beautiful dress twice (potential reception for all guests later in the summer) ! Haha. So there’s that!I hope this helps. But, you are not alone. This feeling will come and go. Try to look at one item at a time and tackle that because looking at the big picture with so many unknowns is overwhelming. 🥰🥰🥰sending you hugs!!!!

Not self centered at all. We wait so long for this moment and its not at all like any of us "covid brides" imagined and it straight up sucks!

I feel your pain

I was glad to hop on here and see this today. Thank you. I have been feeling a bit down about missing some of those things I was looking forward to. The hardest part is deciding to go ahead and plan the 80 guest event we originally hoped for and just hope it can still happen, to postpone or to plan a smaller ceremony and maybe reception. So many decisions!

View quoted message Exactly! It’s nice to have a group like this to help remind me it’s okay to be bummed but that at the end of the day we get to marry those we love and that’s the true blessing! Thanks everyone❤️❤️

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I love this! Thanks for the reminder to focus on what's truly important. I agree that we can choose how we look at it - we can focus on all the things we feel we have lost or choose to look at it as more intimate and meaningful. It may not look like the wedding we had all envisioned, but that's ok. I'll be sure to plan a kick-ass party with the girls once I'm able to though!

I feel you. My actual wedding was suppose to be May 30 this year. We got engaged sept 2018. Then now postponed to June 5 2021. I have zero desire to even think about it, which sucks because I just want to have what everyone else got to do in 2019 and previous years! Like have a bridal shower, a stagette, have people actually excited about the wedding. I think we will get married regardless next year but I can’t help but feel angry that this huge life event is being stolen and it’s not selfish to think that way.

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I totally know how you feel. Trying to plan my April wedding, which has already been postponed from September and I have no motivation. My bridal shower has been pushed twice and my mom isn’t providing any sympathy about potentially not having it. It’s okay to mourn the loss of these things - this is supposed to be a fun and exciting time but instead it is filled with anxiety and unknowns. I know it’s not the same but maybe you could do some virtual/at home events - I’ve heard of bridal expos going virtual, and shops offering at home try on sessions for wedding and bridesmaid dresses. Fingers crossed it gets better!

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I love this! It's reminded everyone that all the extra stuff and people are necessary to celebrate your love.

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Yeah same here! I haven't seen my bridesmaids since dress shopping when things were 'calmer' and that was in august.

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Exactly! What a great way to think of it. Hell or highwater we are going to get married that day, but as my maid of honour said its still okay to mourn the loss of things (such as bridal parties or expos) that you wanted to do.

I know exactly how you feel as I'm currently planning my April wedding. It's like you still have to plan but you don't want to plan too much because you don't know what may happen. It has really forced me to look at what's important to me for that day and not to feel sorry for myself. This is the situation we have to deal with and we're not alone. Thousands of brides are going through the exact same thing. The way I've been trying to look at it is that weddings during the pandemic are actually extra special and meaningful and the true meaning of what a wedding should be. Back to basics. Stripping away all of the elaborate celebrations and focusing on the union between two loved ones surrounded by close family and friends, whichever way it may look.

It's not just wedding planning. These restrictions have made it so that life in general has more or less been "cancelled." Forget any bachelor parties, I've only seen my groomsmen once since March and that was us all masked up to get our suits on the first day things opened up. Other than that, it has only been texts and online chats.

View quoted message Thanks Amelia! Sucks all those plans got cancelled ☹️
I think in the new year when our restrictions ease up I will definitely do the girls night thing! And I got the Pinterest board started! Thanks for the wonderful ideas!
It’s nice to have others who understand ❤️

It's not self centered at all!
In March my husband and I had plans to order invites, go suit shopping, and I was going to two bridal shows with my girls. It was all cancelled. My mom and I were planning to go shopping in Maine for decor, super cancelled. My husband's parents were supposed to visit in the summer from Wisconsin so we planned my shower that weekend, definitely cancelled.
I took a lot of time away from planning at first and then I eased into it with Pinterest boards, Etsy browsing, and watching wedding themed rom coms (a guilty pleasure of mine). Some of those things you can do alone, or you could involve your bridesmaids in. If you're allowed to have people over have a chick flick night with bridal magazines and a cupcake tasting! Or make a shared board on Pinterest and ask them to add hair makeup bridesmaids dresses etc to it.
Keep your head up, we've been there and we're with you!