Anyone eloping and postponing?

Thanks for the replies everyone!!

I dont know what to do my wedding is coming up so fast and i have NO idea what to do. i know if i elope i wont be happy

We're probably doing both! There's a good chance that my future in laws won't be able to enter the country so we are planning on eloping on our 2020 date and having a reception/vow renewal on our first anniversary in 2021. We will officially decide in June or July based on the travel restrictions.


The more I think about it the more I like the idea. This way we don't have to pick our 15 favorite people and have guests miss anything. And we get another year to spread out the costs of the party! There was always talk about having our ceremony be just us (because my fiance is really shy) so now we get to have our private moment and our party only slightly different than the original plan.

We decided to elope last weekend with just our witnesses, minister, parents from a distance and immediate family only via video. That said we also postponed our original date to August (hoping things will be good by then) and plan to have our celebration and vow renewal then. I feel like just knowing we are already legally married is just a huge weight lifted off of my shoulders, not having to stress about getting a license or worrying last minute if things are good in August and struggling. Plan C is already in the works as a just in case also!

We are supposed to be getting married August 8th,2020 but next month I'm contacting all my vendors and such to go ahead with my postponed date. I talked to my fiance on eloping on our original date but he wants it all together and special with everyone. Which I understand. If we are able to have family and friends over we will have a BBQ on our original wedding date to make up for it

I say go for it if it makes you both happy and do a renewal when you have all your guests come together on your day. A celebration to enjoy and be grand.

Yes we are doing both - moved our August 8th wedding to April 24th. I was worried guests might not want to come to wedding if we're already married, but after talking to family and finding out they don't mind then I felt better about it. I originally considered postponing to October, but some people were uncomfortable with that month so everyone is happier we celebrate later and we do what we feel is best for us which is still getting legally married this year.

Our wedding is still quite a few months away (December 2020) but eloping and postponing would be our choice for sure. Actually, we originally wanted to get married December 12 but our venue got booked the day before we went in so we decided on December 5 as it was our backup date. If we can get married this day it would be great but worst case, we post pone and elope on the 12th.

Totally know the feeling!
Our original date is August 1,2020 we are doing a legal ceremony this day (as long as we can get a licence) with just parents & siblings. We are doing the big church wedding next year in April.

It gives us best of both worlds, we get to be married this year & still get to have the big wedding we originally planned with all our family & friends. So far anyone who knows about our plan has been really supportive & sees why we are doing it this way. Definitely know it’s not an easy choice, either way whatever you guys decide will be the best option

We were also ready to elope before we postponed. Honestly I was ready to drop EVERYTHING with this entire wedding and just be married. Once we postponed we felt really happy and confident with our decision.


We personally decided to not do a small ceremony this year and just wait until next year. But I know many people are having a small ceremony this year and celebrating a “vow renewal” next year as well, both are great ideas you have to figure out what you about your FH want and what works best for you guys!
Just giving my side of the story that postponing gave us the greatest relief, and we too were ready to drop everything and elope. I get how you’re feeling! All the best and I hope everything works out for you whatever path you choose!