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Chloe
Newbie August 2018 Ontario

Anxious about my growing guest list

Chloe, on January 31, 2017 at 14:17 Posted in Plan a wedding 0 6
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Hey WW !

I need some help / opinions. Origionally, when I was planning our wedding I wanted to keep it on the small side (approx. 130 people). As my FH and I sat down with our families that list started to grow and is now around 200 people. The families are all contributing to the wedding in some way. I know that the difference isn't huge but I have anxiety and the thought of standing up infront of 200 people, 70 of which I am not necessarily close to, terrifies me.

I don't want to offend anyone. I've read about tiered receptions and do NOT want my wedding to turn into that. That being said, I was thinking of having a small ceremony with only close friends and family and then inviting the rest of my guests to cocktail hour and reception.

Please help. Will that come off as rude? If so, does anyone have an idea that could help.

Thanks!

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Latest activity by Natasha, on February 1, 2017 at 10:36
  • Natasha
    VIP August 2017 Ontario
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    I totally agree with Val on this one ... keep your ceremony intimate and private and then have a large reception to accomdate everyone

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  • Emilie
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    Hey Chloe! Welcome to the community! I'm so happy to see you were able to get useful advice in here. Let us know how it goes! Smiley heart You can also take a look at these ideas to reduce your guest list:

    10 questions to cut down your guest list

    5 people you don't need to invite to your wedding. Agree? How many people are you thinking of inviting for your ceremony? I can't wait to hear all about your plans for your wedding! Smiley catface

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  • Chloe
    Newbie August 2018 Ontario
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    Thank you everyone. This makes me feel a lot better. I appreciate your advice !
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  • Amanda
    Super August 2018 Alberta
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    I'm with these ladies Chloe! All the way!
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  • Samtam
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    Hi Chloe! I think it totally makes sense to do a small intimate ceremony and then a larger reception. If you're not comfortable having a ton of people there for your ceremony, don't do it! It's a very personal thing and you should be able to enjoy it and not be anxious.

    I agree with Val and as long as you word the invitation properly and spread the word that the ceremony is private, then I think that should work!

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  • Valerie
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    Hi Chloe!

    I think it is completely acceptable to keep your ceremony small and your reception larger without offending people IF your ceremony consists of only immediate family and the wedding party (I'd say about a 20 person max depending on how many siblings you and FH have). I think having the intimate ceremony and larger reception is a good compromise between eloping and a big wedding.

    Also I would just be careful with your wording on the invitations so that your guests aren't expecting to see your ceremony and being confused when it's just the reception.

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