Anxiety about Ceremony

View quoted message That sounds like me! I wanted to elope but FH wanted everyone there. I would love to nix the aisle but we’re getting married in my families old country church. I went to visit it this weekend and luckily the aisle is really short lol...we also edited our commissioners script so it was just the very basic things we have to say so it will be very short. I’m gonna try the music thing! I’m glad I’m not alone!

Yes! It causes me so much anxiety. I originally wanted to elope, but my fiance nixed that. So I got rid of the aisle completely. We're just having everyone gather around with a drink. I also edited the script so it's short and sweet, and I think I just have to say 'I do' and 'I will'.

I would pick a fun song to walk down the aisle to. If I had to walk down an aisle, I would end up dancing.

I'm not sure if this is helpful, but perhaps try to remember that the people looking at you are all there because they love and support you. They're not staring at you hoping you will trip or make a fool of yourself. They are there because they want to see you reach this significant milestone.

There is also a good chance that your guests will be more emotional than you will be. When I looked at my guests as I walked down the aisle, most of them were bawling. I am a known crier, but I was weirdly calm on my wedding day.

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That is basically my state of existence so I get you, I really do!

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That's a good idea also! I'm hoping we can find something that isn't super sappy to walk down to, to keep the mood a bit lighter. I have a bad habit of keeping my anxiety bottled up and then it comes out in a big blubbering mess! Lol. Thanks for the tips!

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That's a good idea! I'm going to try the breathing thing. We're also seeing each other before the ceremony, so I think that might help as well, to ease the nerves.

Your dad can be the focus as you walk down the aisle. Its natural to have everyone look at you being the bride as beautiful on your day. Think about your husband to be and the celebration after to realize everyone will be dancing away through the evening.

I am a bit worried about this as well, I hate being stared at by large groups of people. (Working on this by doing some presentations at work! Ha) but I think the tunnel vision will set in and it will be over so quick.

I agree with Caitlyn about taking three really big deep breaths. In through the nose, hold for 10 seconds and then breathe out through the mouth. It can really work your nervous system to calm down. As well, I am having the wedding party walk down to a fun upbeat song that my maid of honor said she will "bop" to to make me laugh before I start walking down.

Oh no!! dont get anxious! just look at your FH. dont look at anyone else!! i feel like in the moment you guy will lock eyes and nothing else will be on your mind!!

It wasn't something that I was worried about at first since I LOVE attention, but honestly it might help to know that when you are walking down the aisle, everything is a blur except the Man you are staring at as you walk towards him. I don't remember looking at anybody other than my Husband and the rest really is a blur.

I was going to mention the tunnel vision like Caitlyn did! I've heard most brides say they barely remember the walk because they were so focused on their future spouse at the end of the aisle.


I suppose you could also distract people by asking a few people before the wedding to look at the groom for you, so that they can tell you all about his face when he first saw you and their eyes will be on him more than on you.

I also have social anxiety so I understand your feelings. I was fine with the idea of walking down the aisle and was very excited for it, until the day of. Suddenly just everything hit me that I would be a crying mess walking down the aisle. What if I fell or tripped? What if everyone thought I looked ridiculous crying so much? I ended up crying a lot, but I successfully made it down the aisle.


What really helped me throughout the day was taking three deep breaths. If you feel overwhelmed or scared or very emotional take two deep breaths. Maybe have one of your bridesmaids give you a little pep talk or get your mind off things by making you laugh before they and you walk down the aisle. It can help to calm you and centre you. Specifically when walking down the aisle I just kept my eyes on my husband as I walked and I didn’t look to the sides at others. Once I got to the front and the professional was over I was unaware of everyone else I except my husband, like tunnel vision. I’ve heard other couples say the same. Just try to stay in the moment and focus on your husband. I found the whole ceremony was over quickly.
You’re going to look beautiful and I’m sure no one will judge you.