Ok, please tell me if I'm being ridiculous. I've posted previously about the issues that I've had with my MOH but I'll give a quick blurb about what happened before... she lied to me about the reason as to why she couldn't make my stag and doe. She said she couldn't get the time off from work but then ended up going out of town that weekend with her boyfriend. She has continuously blown me off when trying to make plans to get together to plan the wedding. She gives excuse after excuse as to why she can't do the things we've talked about and even had the nerve to ask me to put planning my wedding on hold (picking out dresses, colors, styles, etc.) because of her brothers wedding that was in September that she was a part of (she literally just needed to pick a dress and show up because they didn't include her in anything due to how negative she was during their planning process!)
So now it's my turn to pick out the dresses and get the ball rolling as we have just over 6.5 months to go until our day. A few months back I told my girls that I would like to pick out the dresses they liked, size each other, and then order the dresses by mid November as they take 4-6 weeks just to make them then shipping takes about another 2 weeks or more, which would leave roughly around 4-4.5 months before the wedding, giving them ample amount of time to find a seamstress and get alterations, if needed. I wanted to order early to ensure that we had wiggle room, especially seeing as how the company we are ordering from can sometimes take longer to process orders due to the high volumes of orders they receive. Also, these dresses need to be shipped from the States and I have to drive to the closest American border crossing to pick them up, otherwise they pay an additional $50 in shipping rather than $9.95.
I sent out a group message the other day and got nothing back about starting sizing and ordering all together. I messaged my MOH and asked why she didn't respond (as she is the only one who doesn't have kids or a career) and she told me that she didn't respond because she would like to wait to order her dress because her and her boyfriend planned two upcoming trips; one to Arizona this month and another to Mexico in January. So, obviously I'm fuming at this point. She's been my best friend for nearly 10 years and can never let anything be about me. It's been a very frustrating one sided friendship for many years and sometimes I don't understand why we even bother. Anyway, clearly I became a little angry and made a comment about how I stated I wanted to do this in November. She then said if my other girls were okay with ordering now that she would as well, "she guesses".
Do you think I have the right to be upset about this because of everything she's done so far throughout my planning or am I just on guard because of it all? I mean, it's very frustrating especially because I like to plan and get everything organized as soon as I possibly can. I haven't asked anything from them other than to pick a dress, size themselves and order the damn thing. How would you react to this? I don't even know how to approach things with her anymore because last time we fought she told me that she'd put me in my place if I ever "went bridezilla on her again"... when I never actually did. I just called her out on lying to me about why she couldn't come to the Stag & Doe. Ugh.
