This might be a bit strange, but my FH are not huge partiers (I drink and dance a little, but he is sober and doesn't love dancing). Are there alternative activities we could do after the dinner? We're currently planning on having our wedding in Durham region but haven't booked any vendors yet. I was thinking of lawn games, but we still likely be inside. Thanks!
We were in a very similar situation. We considered replacing the dance for other activities, but ended up keeping it because we couldn't find any good idea and we knew our guests would like it even if we didn't dance ourselves.
And it worked really well. We personally didn't dance much after the first dance, but we just spent this time socializing with the guests who weren't currently dancing. And everyone seemed to be having a blast. In fact, my 87-year-old grandma was still dancing when we left at midnight, and we were told the next day that there were people dancing until 2 am.
I don't think you have to feel the need to entertain your guests all day! People are great at entertaining themselves. If you don't have a dance, it gives you more time to mingle with your guests at their table. Guests can still get up and talk to other people. Even with a dance, not everyone is on the dance floor all the time, so they are finding something else to do when they aren't dancing.
I'm going to an afternoon/outdoor wedding this weekend. they are having a noon ceremony. and their cocktail hour is all outside and they have games set up. giant jenga, bean bag toss, someone doing caricature portraits. then lunch is at 230ish.
so I would look for a venue that gives you the option to have some indoor/outdoor elements. at the end of the day. its really up to you and FH what you want.
Are you the kind of people who enjoy a good brunch? Because you could always do an early wedding and have a wedding breakfast! There’s a lot less dancing, less alcohol and it also usually ends up being cheaper if it’s something you were open too!
If not you could still have a dance floor and some music but you guys could spend your time socializing instead while others dance?
Or you could do the lawn games inside and the shoe game would be fun!
I don't think it's strange! We're not doing a dance either... there will be music (courtesy of spotify lol) so I guess if people really feel inclined to dance they can but that's not our thing. We're having our wedding at a pub so it's more of a laid back gathering/party atmosphere. We're just hoping it will be a fun dinner and get together similar to a night out with friends. There's also dart boards were hoping to take advantage of - might be an indoor game option for you.
Your FH may not dance but what about your guests? You may still want to have some dancing if people you are inviting enjoy that.
If you really don’t want any dancing maybe have a late morning wedding and then a lunch reception? My sister had her wedding like that and it didn’t seem weird there was no dancing. They had a cocktail hour, lunch and speeches and that was pretty much it.