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Kim
Frequent user June 2022 British Columbia

Allowing +1's later on?

Kim, on October 22, 2020 at 19:15 Posted in Plan a wedding 0 9
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I'm trying to determine the guest lists (A, B, C etc) for our wedding, and a scenario came to me.

If you decide not to allow guests to bring a +1 that is within your closer circle, how would you go about circling back and allowing it later on (if circumstances change)?

I have realized that I don't want my friends to bring a random boyfriend that they've just met, and think that I want to include that on invitations. However, if in the future, things are turning around, how would you include +1's onto a guest list C? Reach out to those people directly who may want to bring someone?

Trying to think about the long haul here!

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Latest activity by Vinod, on November 4, 2020 at 12:32
  • Vinod
    Featured August 2017 Ontario
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    I do see your view which makes sense of Plus 1s not invited unless the relationship does get serious and to include them after. It seems fair to do so also to know you have met them in person.

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  • Kim
    Frequent user June 2022 British Columbia
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    Great idea, just have to be fluid as you get closer.

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  • Chris
    Newbie September 2020 British Columbia
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    We didn't allow plus ones for our COVID wedding and most people were understanding, but as we approached the wedding date we had a couple of people back out and we replaced those people with plus ones.

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  • Kim
    Frequent user June 2022 British Columbia
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    That's a great point, if they are just starting out when the invites go out, perhaps things can change just before the wedding.
    And covid really is the perfect excuse! Haha
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  • Alexis
    Devoted July 2021 Ontario
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    I think if you had room, individually contact people who you know have more established relationships etc; but weren’t quite at the spot in their relationship when you first sent out invites that you felt obligated to include these ones.
    Corona is the perfect excuse. Idk about you, but I plan to blame corona for a lot lol
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  • Kim
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    I agree, that may be the easiest way. Just have to make notes as to who that may be.

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  • Kim
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    Kim ·
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    That is very true, it has been easier to just use that as an excuse. They can't get mad at me about covid!

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  • Christiana
    Super November 2020 British Columbia
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    I think what you suggested makes perfect sense. Given the circumstances, most people are going to understand no plus ones as you have to prioritize your close friends and family. If in the future you have the space for them, then I agree reaching out directly to those people would be best.

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  • Amelia
    Master October 2020 New Brunswick
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    I think you could get away with blaming it on covid. Something like "due to gathering restrictions we have to keep our guest list small, we hope that will change and will let you know if we have room for you to bring a date!"
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