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Laura, on August 3, 2017 at 12:51 Posted in Plan a wedding 0 7

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Hi ladies,My fiancé and I have been engaged for around 6 months, and just started looking into a wedding for next august! I've been so excited to start planning and I think we found our venue. My fiancé says that he can't wait to be married to me, but the wedding just makes him very nervous. In the last few months he has started his own small company with his dad and money is tight at moment. He doesn't think we should pour a bunch of money into a wedding, which I agree! My parents are giving us some money for the wedding and I figure we will spend around $3,000 of our own money. I'm fairly good at saving money, so I know for a fact I will be able to afford 3,000 by next summer. He says he wants to be able contribute to our wedding, which of course I understand. I just don't see the point in holding off another year when we have the money for it. I've been thinking maybe he could fund our honeymoon, so then he is still contributing(which won't be right after our wedding). I don't want to feel like I'm forcing him into a wedding! What are your opinions?

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Latest activity by Nicole, on August 4, 2017 at 19:15

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Nicole · On August 4, 2017 at 19:15
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Congratulations!
I think you should definitely go forward with your wedding plans for next year. Starting to plan now is super smart too. We are getting married next October (2018), so we have a little over a year. Seems early, but we've already got so much booked, like our church, the venue, the DJ and lighting, and even the cake! Currently working on locking down a decorator and shopping for photographer, videographer and limo.
The cool thing about getting a lot of the planning done super early is that our date is still wide open with a lot of vendors, and we are getting some pretty sweet "early-bird" deals. Our families are helping us out a lot as well, and my fiancé and I will likely end up putting in about $4,000-5,000 of our own money.
You've got some time, so my advice is to shop around as much as you can. Each vendor you meet with is a learning experience for the next one, until you find the service and deal you are looking for.
Good luck, and happy planning!
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Sonja · On August 4, 2017 at 00:07
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I think you would have enough money to get married if you don't have a huge guest list and are very frugal. But I understand that male pride to want to contribute. If he feels that his paying for the honeymoon is a good compromise, go for it. If he actually wants to help pay for the wedding, maybe you can postpone it for a couple of months. End of September or early October are lovely months for a wedding too.
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Vanessa · On August 3, 2017 at 16:25
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First of all congratulations. In my case my FH makes more than me and our wedding will almost be solely funded by him but he never ever rubs it in. My main job is to look for the best deals, and as a wedding/event planner in my past I know my way around more than he does so to speak in these matters. To spend the least amount of money possible and still look good is what we want. My Monday-Friday job has its benefits too as I have summers off as being an EA, I am paying into a pension and I have benefits his does not as he has his own business which he can pick and choose his hours which we can schedule vacations easier to fit my schedule. Its the perfect 2nd supporting job for a family when we start a family. I'll be trying to help out where I can of course as we both have our own responsibilities with 2 houses. We are a team. We currently have been together for over 3 years and getting married next August but still do not live together which not necessarily is a bad thing as I am told by the older generation. I have been told that you make money back on the presentation. As I know we are supportive of each other I am sure you are supportive of each other as well. Planning a wedding can be stressful and as we have already run into a little stress picking a location as we both have excellent places to have a wedding (both of our parents places) which both have meaning to us and the # of guests.
I wish you all the luck in the world. We also are getting married next August!
Vanessa
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Sasha · On August 3, 2017 at 15:28
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No problem! Best of luck with all the planning!!
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Erin · On August 3, 2017 at 15:05
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I would definitely talk it over with him. Maybe you guys can figure something out together that makes everyone happy.
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Newbie August 2018 Alberta
Laura · On August 3, 2017 at 14:59
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Thanks! Yes, I feel the same way about the money being both of ours! Thank you so much! You made me feel much better about this haha
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Sasha · On August 3, 2017 at 13:17
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Firstly, congrats!!!
I think it's sweet he wants to help contribute. If helping out with the honeymoon is fine with him I think it's a great idea.
I was kind of in the same situation, I make more money than my FH and he used to feel bad when he couldn't put as much towards saving as me but I told him what's mine is yours. Especially once we are married! Plus to me it's not about being "even" or saying "hey i paid for this and that and you owe me" etc. We are in this together and he pays for things when I can't and I do the same for him. There is no resentment or guilt from either of us, we are a team.
You and your fiance seem very sweet and you should explain to him that you don't mind saving the money if it means you get to marry him sooner! And if he feels like he can contribute he can help out where he can or put some towards the honeymoon.
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