Addressing Uninvited +1’s

View quoted message That’s what I’m worried about :/

I would take out the word "budget" after wedding in the 5th line. the confusion i see when people get this is that they rip open the invitation and throw away the envelope (with who the invitation is addressed too) and they forget to text you and then assume their partner can come....

View quoted message Thanks Vinod! That was very helpful ☺️🙏

I like that you both have come to the same conclusion of no plus 1 for any guest. I do see the note is a nice idea for your guests to know what you are doing based on inviting extra guests they invite.

This is what how I would read a message to sound more positive enforced.

We are so excited to have you be part of our special day! We celebrate our next chapter in life together with the presence of family and friends. As some of you may know, Jesse & I are starting a Honeymoon fund for the upcoming year. We accept requests for +1 guest not addressed on the invitation. Please do contact us to let us know the name of your guest and contributions made towards your guest(s) meal. We thank you for your understanding and can't wait to see you there!

A modification made to your message as a suggestion.

View quoted message If they respond with two guests instead of just who is on the RSVP then just tell them the invite was for them and that you are unable to extend the invitation to two....

View quoted message Unfortunately we have already made the decision if someone wishes to bring someone we haven’t invited, this will be our policy, we’ve discussed it with multiple family and friends and they agree. Based on the feedback I probably won’t send a note about it though and just hope people ask and not assume.

View quoted message Hmm, okay! I’ll have to consider this option as well

View quoted message I’m more worried people won’t ask... 😞

I totally understand your budget not leaving much room for plus ones, but I wouldn't include this as a part of your invitations (even if you add it to the details card.) I'd either address it directly with those you think it may be an issue with, include it on your wedding website, or avoid inviting guests you anticipate won't respect the fact that their invitation isn't addressed to them and a plus one.

I agree with the other ladies, I wouldn’t ask people to pay for their +1.

If your budget doesn't allow for plus ones, simply address the invite to the person and don’t include “and guest”.

Personally I wouldn't send that note. If someone asked about a plus one not on their invitation I would explain why you can't invite a plus one for them then.

I know you are wanting feedback on the wording and not the policy, but I don't think there is a proper way to ask what you are wanting to ask.
I am a big supporter of a very liberal +1 policy, but if that is not possible, perhaps just limit the invitations to all couples living together, married or engaged. Just my $0.02.