Actual gifts or cash? which do you prefer?

I feel like everyone walks with cash these days... if people bring us boxed gifts then thats ok too! but we are not specifying on our invitations

View quoted message Hi Vinod,

I too am considering no regristry. If ppl ask I will say we have lived together so we have what we need. If ppl feel they need a to purchase a gift. They can do so at their accord.

We preferred cash and that’s what we got. I made a registry for my shower as per my mothers request, but we still ended up with mostly cash from that too. I find that it’s just easier overall and can do so much more for a couple.

I say just make it apparent that you would prefer cash instead of a GC - that would be my only concern!

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Yes, thinking to do this as well!

Cash for us. We paid for our wedding ourselves so any gifts we got were helping pay it off.

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That is awesome. Thank you so much! We will probably do the same thing

We were in the same boat. We told people we would prefer cash to help with our house down payment but we also put together a registry of 30 gift ideas for people who didn’t want to give cash.
We got mostly cash (enough to pay for almost the whole wedding) and then a handful of gifts as well (mostly serving dishes for when we host get together and then some home decorations). It worked out great and a few people thanked us for still putting together a registry.

That's pretty much our exact situation as well so we're going for the cash option. That way we can pick specifically what we like if we need a few items and stick the rest right in the bank. We're just not registering anywhere - I hear people are pretty good about getting the picture that you prefer cash.

No registry made since we have everything we need at home. The more important thing to experience is the time you get to have with your guests and family.

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Thank you! I haven't attended a lot of weddings so I wasn't sure. cash is preferable definitely! Did you have a registry? if so, how was the experience like?

Cash gifts seem best since its easy and don't have to take up space as to actual gifts being given. Every wedding I have attended has no boxed gifts given to the couple. Putting the cash aside for projects or down payments does help big time.

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Thanks a lot!

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Thanks a lot! This is very helpful . Also, we are still renting, probably will rent until after the wedding. So we really do prefer cash, easier storage-wise and when we move!

Not having a registry is the typical way to say that you want cash over household objects. In terms of etiquette you shouldn't really outright say that you want cash. Even if you have a few registry items you do need you can just register for those and when they are bought people will resort to cash. In fact, a lot of couples say that even if they had a registry most people gave them cash.

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Word of mouth honestly. My FMIL is putting it on the invites for the shower, and my step mom is not, shes just telling family members as they ask. And honestly, many of our family bring cash to the wedding anyways because its easier to carry a card around in a purse of jacket than a huge gift!

Have both sets of parents let family know and let it spread from there!

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How did you get the word out about cash preference? I was thinking to include it in one of the registries, like in myregistry.com, there is a tab there that says "House Downpayment Fund", I'm not sure if that is enough and if people will actually see it..

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Mainly when they would ask my mom what I needed- we said we wanted to do things to upgrade house like reno's and so they would do cash instead. We needed things like new door knobs and so forth just dumb things that are expensive and wanted to watch for when a sale to get the best deal.

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How did you get the word out that you prefer cash? thanks!

We are also doing cash, and I would still prefer that even if we needed items for our house. This way you can get exactly what you want, and not worry if people will get you the right things etc.

I would have prefered the cash- people didn't even look at my registry I had 3 and only 4 people bought off of them. Some people got what they thought would be best or gave money.

We’re doing cash. We’re not flat out putting that on the invites or anything, we just aren’t having a registry.