4 months out and stressed!

That really sucks!!! I hope the situation does get better, and if not, we're always here to vent!

I felt bad when I had kicked her out- she said things would change so let her stay and then its only gotten worse! We are both in her and her FH wedding 2 months away. ours is 4 months away. and thank you Allison! Its been tension all around and causing issues between my FH and her FH because of her actions. Just because she is filling his head with he doesn't want to be in it, yet we show up to everything and support with it all.

Ugh - I'm 5 months out for mine and 1 month out for my BM's wedding. I'm so sorry you're going through this much stress at this stage in the planning - I just want to give you a virtual internet hug Becky!!

Unfortunately, I've seen alcoholics such as your ex-BM - when they are sober they are much more pleasant to deal with than wasted. I think you've made the right decision of kicking her out of your side, but her FH is on your FH's side still? It could cause some tension since the guys are still on good terms.

I also feel for you about the guest list. My mom invited lots of her friends, who are fun to be around and such, but I barely know them! She is helping pay for the wedding so I am willing to compromise with her on this but it still sucks, I know!

Thank you Sharlene, I have been doing buck and doe stuff during the nights- FH did the games on the weekend, I did some signs yesterday, ticket ripping and all that another night infront of tv. Ordered the booze last night, basically trying what you said and do one thing at a time but making list and checking it off. I am hoping with long weekend approaching I can knock off few more items! I just find it very overwhelming at times and trying to keep with it.

My face has been breaking out bad because of the stress and its another thing on top of it all. I am sure it will get better soon though

It is terrible what is happening to you. I feel bad for you. I had lots of drama earlier on and I had another panic attack at three months out realizing how much we have to do for DIY projects, but then we started doing something (even small) every week. It is getting better. My future in-laws have both said they cannot come to the wedding. We decided not to worry ourselves with people who should attend the wedding and instead focus on celebrating with the ones that are coming. All of this getting organized and focusing on the positive has helped with the stress level in my life.

Thank you Tori! I actually did make a schedule and giving it to them so they know where we are expecting them to be and when. We rotated so people are stuck in same spot and get a break at a point too. Its honestly so much work and some of them haven't sold a single ticket! I sold a 10 for my friend and felt bad wasn't more- they were to my family, but she hasn't sold a single one for mine.. Its honestly so much work, I got all the raffles donated by businesses and the prizes for games as well, the rest we bought.

Ughhh, I just wish that there was something that we could do. I mean, we're here for you and are listening which is something at least.

I know just how much work it was for my Wedding Social here in Manitoba and I don't know what I would have done if it weren't for my wedding party being able to help with prizes and set up and especially selling tickets not only for the event but at the event for the texas mickey and 50/50.

The only shred of help I could give you would be to just simply TELL THEM that they are to be there. TELL THEM when they are working at the front table, 50/50 bucket that goes around, and who is handling which game and when. It's a lot of bossy but it's that or have it give you more stress and possibly have it fall apart.

Wishing you all the best!!

I am so sorry that there is so much of this stress so close to your big day! It will get better!

Wedding planning really brings out the best or worse in some people, and that is HORRIBLE what your BM has said to both you and your FH. You guys for sure do not need that BS at your wedding.

As for your wedding party not helping too much with your buck and doe, unfortunately this is why we chose not to have one. No on in the wedding party seemed up for it, and I did not want to be the one planning it on top of a wedding. So we just left it. It is really unfortunate because I have heard some people who make a killing at their buck and does and then to have a wedding party not want to help is a lot of stress on the bride and groom.

I also feel your stress when it comes to the guest list. My parents helped us by putting down the deposit for our venue, so I took that as them inviting at least 15 people and paying for it. My side of the family was all for just inviting family that we see on a regular basis, and not some people that need to come because it is a wedding. My in laws have invited some people who both my FH and myself have not seen in 5 years, and I honestly have no idea who they are. But it is still within our budget for them to come, so i have just left it. But I feel like giving your mom a little reminder about the guest list would be the best thing to do at this point. Especially since you have not sent out the invites yet.

She basically controls everything about the FH. He isn't allowed to just have a guys day, she's having it controlled right down the the bach night - joined event whole day and he wanted something separate. This is why my FH is nervous that she would have him kicked out of theirs or him drop from ours if I was to say anything. This shouldn't be the case. The first time I dropped her I said it shouldn't effect him and I will help with whatever is needed that my FH should be doing. She is a major alcoholic and every time I see her lately shes beyond gone. The last 4 issues have been when shes quiet intoxicated. I just am so flustered and not far that I am stuck with this person on my side. I feel like its going to ruin the wedding day for me.

"Her latest was going up to my FH infront of me and went on how he shouldn't marry me and so forth and he said he was happy and she needed to stop"

Say what now?! You and FH sure are forgiving and loving people. There is no way I would continue to let this person be involved in the wedding at all. Or there really. I realize its complicated if her partner is in your FH side. Can you talk to her FH about her actions? I really don't think that kind of behavior should be left alone, because it sounds like potential drama for the wedding.

I am SO SORRY this is happening to you. The bridal party are meant to be your support system!

Yes it really is, I don't want her in my wedding photos at all and made clear to FH. I am just so annoyed at this point. We were friends with them when no one else would be and stuck of up for them. For her to turn around and do all of this just hurts. There are other people who have helped more and yet they aren't in my wedding party. My one friend is hurting hard with fact didn't ask her but she was pregnant at the time and new that is expensive and hard when on mat leave.

I'm so sorry to hear about all the stress.. I've learned this is all a very eye opening experience.. We have been disappointed a great deal but our people and it makes you question the relationships all together.. As for your bridesmaid - WOW. She sounds horrible, I see your dilemma but I sure wouldn't want that person anywhere near my wedding.. or my life.

We were left to do close to everything for our shower and felt very let down so I totally hear you - all I can say is try and keep in mind what is important. All the rest of it doesn't matter. Keep your head up.