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Expert September 2019 Ontario

30 hours to go and I am losing my mind

Meaghan, on September 3, 2019 at 08:53 Posted in Plan a wedding 0 8
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Why did I think it was a good idea to tell anyone we are getting married???

This morning's texts have included:

Additional family (Parents) saying they want to attend our elopement. Which means I need to figure out where we are going to eat because my original reservation was for 4. So now I need to plan a tiny reception TODAY!

Arguing with me over who is going to witness

Flowers - When we told just my mom and she wanted to come, too, I asked my florist for a corsage for her. Now that other parents are coming I'm not going to be able to ask for florist for several more boutonierre and corsages THE DAY BEFORE MY WEDDING. I'm just saying screw it, no one else gets flowers. There are hurt feelings.

Repeated texts (from mom) that I need to tell my sister with whom I am no contact. Not gonna happen.

And 1 pending text/call... I still haven't told my father. I really don't want to. The last time we saw him he made fun of my son's disability. I'm hoping if I send by text later in the day he might not see it (how's that for passive aggressive?)

I am a ball of stress. This wasn't ever supposed to become this. I realize this may sound a bit overdramatic - it's only 5 more guests for a total of 9 people including us - but it more than doubled our numbers and we were eloping for a reason.

How's everyone else doing?

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Latest activity by Rayanne, on September 3, 2019 at 21:04
  • Rayanne
    Master June 2022 Ontario
    Rayanne ·
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    I'm sorry that such a happy time has turned into a stressful event for you. I hope everything works out as you want it. Not much longer and you'll be married and you won't have to worry about it....
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  • Vinod
    Top August 2017 Ontario
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    One announcement becomes a family affair for your wedding. Unfortunately, your mom is making a big deal about this and who to invite without consulting you one bit. Her part is wrong in doing what she thinks is right and your father not being the best person to be present/rude in his way about your son.

    Invite who you want and keep it very immediate the way you want and forget the corsage/flowers in whole if that creates an issue for parents. Just one boutonniere for your husband only.

    Your connection to your sister and father isn't important if they don't feel to share your day as your daily life. Don't take your moms advise, follow your heart vibes truthfully.

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  • Allison
    Master October 2019 Ontario
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    I'm sorry your elopement got away from you and now your numbers have doubled!! I hope tomorrow still goes well for you and remember - at the end of the day, you'll be married to your FH - even though there are some extra guests!

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  • Becky
    VIP September 2019 Ontario
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    Wow!! I am so sorry that was so stressful. How did it all go in the end and turn out? I hope you still had an amazing day!

    So far so good, did a bunch this weekend but 2 weeks left.

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  • Tori
    Top October 2019 Manitoba
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    Oh goodness - I didn't realize that the wedding is literally tomorrow!

    Like I said, I would call everybody up and tell them no... but if you can't do it then I get it.

    As for your FH working... ya... little strange but I'm sure that even though he's at work all he will be thinking about is the fact that he gets to be your husband by the end of the day Smiley smile

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  • Casey
    Master October 2019 Ontario
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    I 100% agree with Tori. It is your wedding, you do not need to accommodate everyone if you don't want to. It is difficult to not feel pressured because they are family, but there is nothing wrong with telling them no.


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  • M
    Expert September 2019 Ontario
    Meaghan ·
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    And for added fun, FH just told me he's working the morning of the wedding. I mean, it's all good, he promises he'll be home in plenty of time, but right now it is striking me as really ridiculous that I'm going to wake up tomorrow and he'll be at work.
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  • Tori
    Top October 2019 Manitoba
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    No!! Your wedding is YOUR wedding! Do NOT accommodate to please others!!! If they wish to celebrate with you then they can plan a BBQ later or something!

    If I were in your shoes I would contact everybody that has reached out and even if you had said they can attend I would tell it to them straight - you wanted to elope for a reason and with everybody wanting to attend it isn't what you or your FH were picturing for your wedding and you are sorry but you ask they do not attend.

    As for me - my wedding is just over a month away so as you can imagine a wedding for 250 people is quite the opposite but same level stress that you have right now probably!

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