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Worries about wedding reception

Jokat, on April 20, 2022 at 10:49 Posted in Wedding reception 0 6

We are about 2 months out from our wedding. Since we started planning, we envisioned having a small, intimate wedding with our family and close friends- guest list is around 55-60- we are having a church wedding followed by restaurant reception. Our initial idea was that it would just be dinner, drinks, cake and mingling, no dance party as we aren't dancers and we don't think our guests are really dancers either. We will just have jazz playing over restaurant sound system. However, as we've gotten closer to our wedding, we have more doubts about this. Is this boring/lame? We decided we'd like to do a first dance together and have taken some lessons for this. But then I read on some forum that it is weird/rude for the couple to do a first dance but not otherwise have dancing. This leaves us in a weird place- do we open space, music, time for dancing and risk no one getting on the floor (we don't envision doing much dancing other than our first dance- I'd rather talk and visit with my guests)? Or do we just do our first dance and not open space, music and time for dancing and possibly come off as weird/rude? Am I over-thinking it?


Latest activity by Kelsey, on April 24, 2022 at 12:45
  • Kelsey
    Frequent user August 2022 Alberta
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    Hey Jokat,
    I have been to a wedding where the vibe was similar to what you're talking about. No dancing, just background music and mingling. While I am definitely a dancer at weddings, I still found it to be a lovely wedding. It was nice catching up with people and having time to mingle with the couple.

    Do what feels best for you! Congratulations and enjoy your day ❤💕
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  • Amanda
    Featured August 2022 British Columbia
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    JUST REMEMBER this is your day with your fiance and not anyone elses. You don't need to please every single person. Do what you and your future husband want to do!

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  • Hailey
    Expert June 2022 British Columbia
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    Hey welcome to WW.
    As others have said at the end of the day it I'd your and SO big day. It doesn't matter what others think or what not. If you want a first dance and no dancing then that's that!!

    If you wanted too you could put the music not super loud so you can still dance and talk if no one wants to dance!

    Please don't think you have to do anything to fit in the norms or worry what others may think, its your big day and if that's something you truly want in your heart then go for it love ❤ if that were the case my wedding would be waaaay different then it is! We have our laid back backyard wedding where my family is making the food and a few weeks after have a big fancy friends wedding. For my bridal shower my MOH and I did a FB event and an online invite the bride getting married 2 weeks after us did a formal paper invite - complete opptise and that's okay! Hope this helps! 😊
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  • Hank
    Featured September 2021 Ontario
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    But then I read on some forum that it is weird/rude for the couple to do a first dance but not otherwise have dancing.

    I have never heard this and I can't imagine there is much stock in that thought process. That would be like suggesting it would be rude if all your guests don't have a dedicated kissing time at your wedding just because you as the couple shared a kiss at the altar.

    I've been to a ton of restaurant weddings without a dance party attached to it. They can be fun. Dancing is not the only way to have fun nowadays, especially if you feel yourself and your guests aren't that into it.

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    Featured October 2023 Ontario
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    Welcome to WW Jokat! I will say this if there is one continuous theme on WW it is that it's your day and you do what you both want. After being locked up for so long anything goes! Follow your heart

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  • Malyssa
    Featured October 2022 Alberta
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    Hi Jokat and welcome!

    Weddings can be so stressful on the couple trying to think of every situation and accommodate ever persons suggestions, even when it comes to online opinions. But ultimately, this is YOUR day to celebrate and you should be able to do what you want, so if that means just you both doing your first dance and nothing more, than I think that is perfectly fine. What you want to do sounds quite nice and if thats the vibe you want I vote go for it!! Smiley heart

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