Who plans the events before the wedding?

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No the co-workers and some friends are not that close to me or bf so i dont think they should come to the wedding but i want to give them a chance to celebrate with us.

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Thank you, i'll tell my bridesmaids how much fun it can be.

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If your engagement party is meant for the families to meet, then you may have to delay that since his side is overseas and covid is heavily restricting travel. Not sure how old they are and if they're working but I'd imagine it'd be tough to take 4 weeks off just for a one-off to meet the in-laws.

You can ask your MOH or one of your bridesmaids to see who can plan a bridal shower if you want to have one. Is covid the reason you're not inviting co-workers and friends?

View quoted message I honestly found it a lot of work. You have to find a venue, get food, get alcohol (and make sure you have smart serve certified people to serve it), plan/make/organize games, make and sell tickets, get prizes. It’s a lot of work but it really was fun

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I smell wiener straws!

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Is it a lot of work to plan jack and jill? i want to tell bridesmaids what they will have to do.

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No families have not met because his family is in england and my family in brampton. i want an engagement party. my bridal shower is not for family its for people like coworkers and friends that i wont invite to the wedding so we can still celebrate. jack and jill is to raise money for our wedding because we just finished school so we dont have a lot of money.

I would ask your bridal party what they are comfortable planning instead of hoping that they take on the task. It's easier if everyone know what is expected of them instead of guessing and ending up stressed or frustrated.


My mom and I were planning my bridal shower (pre covid) and if we want one next year I don't expect my girls to do anything other than show up. It was more for the mom's than for me, and I'm ok with that. My bachelorette has been a group effort. I booked the hotel and the restaurants, and my girls actually asked me to stop planning so they could take over (I have control issues...). It's this weekend and I only know about the things I booked.

It’s alright to wait to have an engagement party, especially now in the times of COVID where you’re limited on where you can have the party and how many people can be there. We had an engagement party, my mom hosted it at her house. The main reason she hosted was because my husband hadn’t met quite a bit of my extended family yet, it was just for my family and then we invited my in-laws. Really, I think anyone could host the engagement party.


For our Jack and Jill we hosted and planned it all. We got help from our parents and wedding party the day of for running games, tending the bar, putting out food, selling tickets and such.
Our bachelor and bachelorette parties were planned by our BM and MOH. Typically it’s someone in your wedding party that plans these.
My shower was planned by my mom and MIL. Really anyone can plan and throw your shower from a parent, sibling, wedding party member, another friend or relative. Whomever steps up and wants to throw the party can do it.

Do your families know each other? Have they met before? If they do and have met, and everyone in your social circle knows you're engaged, it's not necessary to have an engagement party since it has been a good solid while since your engagement. If you choose not to do it, it's one less thing for you to deal with.

As for the other parties, it is traditional for the MOH to plan your bachelorette and your whole bridal party (bridesmaids and groomsmen) to execute the jack and jill. As for a bridal shower, it depends on who you're inviting. If it's just family, then typically your immediate family like mom and sisters pitch in the heavy leg work.

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Thank you. i will make sure to tell my maid of honor.

You would host and plan the engagement party, I believe. Typically it would be the maid of honour who plans any Bachelorette or bridal shower and bridesmaids would help, if able to. Make sure to voice your wants to your maid of honour as not everyone throws us these parties.

First off, Congrats on the engagement!!! Exciting times!!

My MOH is planning my bachelorette party. As well as my bridal shower with the help of my mother and my future MIL. My fiance and I are having separate bachelor parties so his BM is planning his stag. As for engagement parties, you don't have to do it right away but that's totally up to you and your fiance. My fiance and I didn't have an engagement party when we got engaged and we've been engaged for 2 and a half years already.