When do i tell my new boss that i am getting married

Exactly! Thank you Kacy

Say something now cause other wise you're probably going to get frowned at for not feeling them. Especially when u need to book time off for the big day and the honeymoon if u going on it right away

Glad to hear it went smoothly!! one less thing on your mind!!

Hi everyone I told my boss today and it wasn't a big of deal for her. She's really happy for me and she gave me my 1 week vacation after the weddin, unpaid of course, since I just began my job. I am really happy that everything went well and I wanted to thank you all for your kind advices.

Thanks, congratulations to you too! and good luck!!

I agree.

Well where I am now didn't tell about vacation or days off. so maybe they'll talk to me about it after my 3 months of probation.

I teach so my vacations days are dictated to me and thankfully my union argeement dictates that I am allowed 7 days off in a row (paid) including the day of the wedding so all I had to do was send an email saying when my 7 days was starting. But my FH and the father of my kids who both work at different companies have a date every April where they put in summer vacation requests. So even a new worker has to put in their requests during that time period and they grant vacation requests based on seniority so a new worker would get last pick. Of course a wedding could have an impact on whether an employer would give priority or not to a new worker.

The wedding itself should not be a deal breaker for a job. Many people do a delayed honeymoon and don't go the week after their wedding so if the employer can't grant vacation time then that is an option too. If you are wearing an engagement ring they would most likely already realise that the worker is engaged. And yes transparency is important

hahaha you are right.

Yes it helps a lot, thank you.

Right away is always best. That way everyone has enough notice. Plus I'm yet to come across a boss/employer who isn't happy their employee is getting married.

You should tell your boss as early as possible for a number of reasons. if you work in a team, you want to book those days of before anyone else does. You can also ensure you have the appropriate back-up to cover for you when you're off.

Granted, you don't have to tell them you're off because you're getting married. But you should book the days off as soon as possible. If your boss doesn't approve, then you may want to disclose the reason why you want it off and that can change his/her mind.

hope this helps!

Ok perfect. Thank you for the advice Rekramer.

hahahah hell yeah!!

Tell them like you would with any other vacation, not earlier, not later. i work at an office with very casual rules so i usually clear with my coworkers, then just tell my boss when i won't be here. no need to make it any harder. i'm sure once it gets out i'm planning a wedding, there will be more discussion. but id say put it in the calendar as soon as you can, so people know you will be away.

Cheers to a great wedding day for us!

That's so nice of them, being excited for you and congrats to your fiance for his new job. I'll let you know what they told me. I am telling them today.

Really!!! That's so great hahaha.

Hi Donna,

Oh it is nice you started working in a new job and you like it. I would just do whatever feels right to you.

How is the planning going?

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I would tell them right away.. I haven't been at my job for long but I told them right away. They're all excited and keep saying I can go for as long as I like because it's a special occasion. Of course not everyone's experience is the same but my fiance also just started a new job and told them and got the time off for the honeymoon. I've mostly had people express excitment and want to help out.

Your welcome, Donna. You and I share same wedding date, which is awesome.

Yes it helped a lot, thank you Simone.

Hi Donna,
It is better to be upfront with your new employee. Yes, you are not obligated to discuss everything but your boss may be unhappy that you did not let them know of this. Keep in mind, depending on how long you are off, they need to have someone cover you.
Hope this helps.

Okay thank you Melinda. And yes I think I am gonna tell them and if they can't give me the week I will understand.

Think about it from the perspective of your boss. Would you rather know earlier, for planning purposes? A while ago someone started new at my work and she already had a pre-planned 2 week vacation scheduled about a month after she started. It was planned before she even got the job and she actually told us about it before accepting the job. We appreciated her honesty and it didn't have a negative effect at all. She didn't expect to get paid for it, but just for the sake of planning, it was good to know. Plus, one or two weeks is really not that long in the grand scheme of things.

So I would say, tell them that you have a wedding date and say that you would appreciate any amount of time off that they can give you before or after (or whatever it is that you want). If you wait too long, I think you run the risk of not getting the time off that you want.

Thank you Leah. I am going to think about them. But I think even if they give me the week off it will be non paid.

Good points, Leah. I hadn't considered that, and you're right about not being obliged to disclose everything.

Adding to my own comment, I would say that you shouldn't ask for vacation prior to probation ending without good cause. So if you were to ask for a week in August now without expressly mentioning the reason, it would look bad. My previous job at a large company frowned upon asking for vacation time too early on in the gig, unless of course it was for a good reason (getting married). Maybe it's because I'm in PR, but I think transparency works in one's favour at times.

I disagree with the others. There is no reason to tell them now. If there is a date to put in vacation requests you could ask about that. I started a new permanent job when I was 8 weeks pregnant. I said nothing because legally I didn't need to. But I did tell them after I got my contract signed back to me by the school board.

July and August are normal times for people to take holidays and most businesses with permanent employees have a date where vacation requests have to be made by. My FH asked for a week off for our honeymoon without saying why so his work has no idea he is getting married. He feels no need to tell them. They approved his vacation request.

Thank you Denise. I will find time to tell them today.

I just started a new job too! Luckily, my wedding isn't till next year, but if you've already established a good rapport with your manager, I would be upfront about it sooner than later. I'm sure if your employer is good, they'll understand that this is a huge life event deserving of time off.

okay perfect thank you very much!

Then sooner is better, it's unrealistic to wait and expect to get time off when you only give them two months notice. I think you should tell them you are getting married, and you would appreciate a week off but you understand it might not be possible