I've been finding myself stressed lately as I work closely with patients in an extended health care field and I've had multiple clients say "Why bother having a big wedding? Why not just have something tiny in your hometown (1hr away from my town) in someone's house? Is your Dad paying for the whole thing? Save all that money. It's only a day"
Usually I can shrug it off but with other stress I'm going through, this hit hard today when I had an older client who was opinionated. I do work in extended healthcare so I need to bite my tongue a lot but I felt the need to justify and I feel it came up short. I joked around saying I was spoiled as a kid but it wasn't enough to push off the conversation.
Ultimately, I want a larger wedding because I feel like it's one of the greatest days of my life and it should be treated as such and my relationship should be celebrated. I grew up around big weddings and expensive displays. I was raised in a small town where a small wedding would hurt my family and I hate the thought of a small wedding but I don't want to come off as selfish, snobby or unappreciative. I also don't want to put down small weddings as I know that's what some people prefer and although it's nice for some, I don't like it at all.
In summary - How do I politely explain to people why I want a big wedding without running a tangent or getting defensive but still respecting others and not closing out the conversation? And has anyone else ever experienced this?