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Nelly
Expert September 2017 Ontario

What I learned: Wedding is a family affair

Nelly, on September 28, 2016 at 11:38 Posted in Before the wedding 0 17

The most important thing that I learned while planning our wedding, is that it's truly a family affair and that everyone's opinion matters and counts but that the ultimate and final decision will alawys be my fiancee's and my decision. What have you learned about wedding planning so far?

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Latest activity by Kira, on October 3, 2016 at 11:34
  • Kira
    Devoted November 2016 Ontario
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    I couldn't agree more! It's been the same for me. Everyone has been involved from the start. All my family is also helping with catering, we want to do all the food ourselves.

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  • Amanda
    Frequent user August 2017 Saskatchewan
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    It is yes, but at the same time I have some friends who steal. Idea so it's a win lose
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  • Nelly
    Expert September 2017 Ontario
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    That's sad that you're not getting input from family or friends. Our friends aren't giving us much input since we're only inviting a handful of friends. Our wedding is all about family
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  • Amanda
    Frequent user August 2017 Saskatchewan
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    I'd def welcome input if it was available
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  • Nelly
    Expert September 2017 Ontario
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    We like sharing our ideas with our families. It makes me feel like it truly is a family affair getting people's opinions ans ideas. The final decision is ours
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  • Amanda
    Frequent user August 2017 Saskatchewan
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    Thankfully no one really has asked or cared about our wedding choices.. Since we're paying anyways I'm kinda happy
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  • Simone
    Master August 2017 Manitoba
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    Thanks Nelly!
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  • Simone
    Master August 2017 Manitoba
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    Thanks Emilie. The challenge that I had experience was having a wedding and a reception in on venue. But my mother insisted on a church wedding so that we have the proper send off and blessing. I settled with her but from that point on, I have made sure to make the decisions that make my fiancé and I happy since it's our day and we are paying for most of the costs. I will definitely share my insight with Rebecca as I can understand where she is coming from.
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  • Nelly
    Expert September 2017 Ontario
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    Julie listen to ideas, but the final decision should always be yours and your fiancee's. Wedding planning should be fun and enjoyable not stressful.

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  • J
    Newbie December 2016 Ontario
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    I'm glad to hear I'm not the only one overwhelmed by family and friends' opinions. We have a hard time saying no to the ones we love (like everyone else, I'm sure). It's just caused a lot of stress when people's ideas don't fit your budget.
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  • Emilie
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    You're so right Simone! Smiley smile

    It's so important to have everyone's support and ask for their opinion, have them involved somehow, but as Nelly says, the last decision should always be yours. Stay true to your Smiley heart

    Have you felt so far that your preparations were sometimes not so fun because of everyone else involved?

    I think that's how Rebecca feels and I'm sure she would appreciate having both of your insights ladies. Smiley heart

    Wedding preparation isnt joyful

    What has been your greatest challenge in your preparations?

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  • Nelly
    Expert September 2017 Ontario
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    Our 4 youngest nieces and nephews will be our flowergirls and ring bearers. All of the other children that are invited we will be having 84 children in total. Will escort guests to their tables, the ones that are to young for that will be handing out our wedding favours, and reminding guests to sign our guest book. We really wanted to have all the children participate.

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  • Emilie
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    Awww! This is such a great lesson Nelly!! Smiley heart

    I'm glad you share this vision of family, it's such an important part of our lives!

    What did your siblings help the most with?

    Were there moments when their help felt a bit overwhelming?

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    Let me know how you like them! I love having your opinion in here! Smiley smile

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  • Nelly
    Expert September 2017 Ontario
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    Couldn't agree more with you

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  • Simone
    Master August 2017 Manitoba
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    I have learned that it's great to have options given, but not to get oveewhelm with meeting up to everyone's expectations. At then end of the day it is your wedding and youMust make sure that you are happy with the choices that are made.
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  • Nelly
    Expert September 2017 Ontario
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    There no right or wrong way to have a wedding. Really a wedding is only one day, the main focus is on the marriage. As long as you and your fiancee are on the same page your wedding will be perfect for you. Good luck with all of your plans
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  • Melissa
    VIP June 2017 Ontario
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    I have learned very much the same- while I love my family, and I love getting other opinions, the final choices are ours. We are having a lot of backlash (mostly from friends, actually) for choosing to have a 14 person ceremony.

    I have also learned not to let the internet make me feel badly about the choices we are making for our wedding. There are a lot of strangers who seem to want to make people regret, second guess and feel badly about their wedding. It really freaked me out at first- thinking i was going about my wedding the "wrong" way. It was my fiance who helped me see there is no right or wrong way- only what a couple wants, and what they do not.

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