My fiance is backseat-driver... in everything. Including driving. But also cooking and cleaning and my work and last week, how to fold fitted sheets. He's an oldest child, which I think explains it. Except so am I, so I generally just smile. And ignore him
A topic I was going to start myself until I stumped onto yours.
My husband somewhat tries to please me by doing things right and ends up having me to fix or come up with solutions to many issues.
He's what I call a dreamer (not a bad thing) who tries to justify buying things every day or for whatever reason he thinks is right. On the other hand, he also has wants and needs that takes him over his head at times and doesn't seem to keep me on schedule.
As your fiancé, my husband thinks the world revolves around him to get ready and for a long period because he brushes/blow his air, brush his teeth and get dressed when it could be done after taking a shower. I end up waiting for 15 to half hour time before we end up leaving.
When it comes to going to family events, he seems rather unsettled to ever go early and on his time because he doesn't like to come home early and we end up reaching late at night. Negative remarks are made when we leave because I say something he doesn't like or I yell at him for his behaviour or attitude towards something said and blames me for getting on his case.
All I can say is I have been training him and feeling it as he's not all there at times.
This is the worst thing for me also! My solution was to buy more hampers so he doesn't have an excuses. He still leaves his socks under his desk though which drives me crazy!
My fiance does the same with his clothes.. nothing bugs me more! .... or taking the last item out of package (ie. toilet paper), and leaving the empty package in the cupboard. UGH!
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Mine watched tv and or games until midnight/1am and has been falling asleep in front of the tv so i go to bed alone. I always end up waking up every now and then during the night cause i can’t feel him in the bed. I don’t enjoy it so much and it freaks me out a little.
My fiancé is a big talker. He tells everyone that he has his routine when he comes back from work: if there are clean dishes to be put away he puts them away, if there a dishes to clean he does it, he then sets the table and prepares the food to be heated right before i arrive (he gets home by 4pm and me by 6:30pm). Then and ONLY then does he lie down to watch tv. Since we moved in together a little over a month ago, he’s done this "routine" maybe 4-5 times. I wash, clean, put away, cook everyday. I asked him to get the clean laundry from outside. He did...and left it in the basket for 3 days until i finally asked him to fold it. I love him with all my heart and soul, and this man drives me nuts.
My Fiance does the same thing with his clothes. He is starting to get better but I am still picking up after him. He's the worst to wake up. He always says 5 more minutes and snoozes his alarm so much and wakes me up because he doesn't turn it off.
He games all the time! And when I ask if we can watch a movie, he says "give me 20 minutes" safe to say it's never 20 minutes! So now if we feel like electronics are being used too much we put a lock through the plug so they can't be used. Apparently my straightener is used too much, because it always has a lock 😂
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Just tell him you're gonna toss out his laptop....i say it all the time. while i have yet to actually do so, it's insanely tempting.
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Boom baby! Same freaking things, what is with the gaming for 10-12 hours and insisting it was like 2?!? The slow poke tardiness drives me nuts, gaming late means coming to bed late. So good to know that we all are driven bonkers but we still love them.
Mine does the same! not just clothes but messes everywhere.
He sleeps later and takes forever to get ready, and always makes me late which drives me absolutely insane. Also, his beard hairs when he shaves all over the bathroom sink.
oh and his ability to fall asleep 2 seconds after his head hits the pillow.
But I love every bit of him despite those flaws, as I know for a fact mine are probably more annoying hahaha
Based on the overwhelming responses I have come to the conclusion that I am your fiancé..... always late, leave lights on, am a tornado when getting ready and rushed and well I confess I don't rinse my dishes before they go in the dishwasher haphazardly. What makes me nuts is him trying to get me to stop these things, one day he'll figure out to tell me we have to go at a different time than the truth! In the meantime he can rinse and re-arrange the dishwasher to his hearts content!
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September 2019
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He's loud: walks on his heels, slams doors, borderline yells when he yawns. I make fun of it, say that it's a result of being the middle child and always having to make sure we know he's around.
He leaves his cigarette cartons all over the counter. Ahhhhhh! They are empty. I find myself asking if he is done with them. He’s like oh ya, thank you baby for putting them in the garbage.
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He sleeps until the last minute and gets ready at the last minute and it makes us late for everything. It stresses me out since I arrive early/on time for everything! Otherwise, he's a great catch!!
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My FH refuses to go to the doctor. He hates needles as well so I always have to trick him to going and getting his annual check up.
It drives me crazy when FH gives me his lunch boxes after I finish the dishes. AND Taking 1hr of poop esp when I need to use the bathroom as well.
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From what I read above, I think men share few things which made them men...? There are few things from my FH. Leaves the lights on when he left the room. Keeps forgetting to lock the front door or the garage when he left home. Won't do organic and recycle things. He throws everything in garbage. I feel like homeless who constantly digging in our garbage. And the last one, it's very difficult to bring him to dentist and doctor. I have to keep rescheduling his appointments. But I still love him very much because he has many other excellent qualities that I appreciated which overshadowed the things that annoyed me.
Ohhhh so so so so much. But I love him.... Right?! Haha.
Biggest thing currently: He can't figure out how to put things in the recycling bin. He knows where it is, right under the sink, and he knows stuff isn't garbage, so he doesn't throw it out, he just leaves it next to the sink or in the sink for me to put in the bin. IT'S DIRECTLY UNDER THE SINK!!!!
Mine puts his socks everywhere! And then after a couple of days he complains that there is no socks for him to wear. I'm training him but it's taking me longer then I wanted
He wakes up at like 4am every day and goes and sleeps on the couch.. it's nice when I want to stretch out and take up the bed but sometimes I wake up in a panic when he's not there. But he does it every morning, and he thinks it's for my benefit lol
Lately my FHs biggest thing is that he has decided he cant work on his homework (hes trying to upgrade his chem 11 online to get into a different university program) unless im home because he needs 'moral support'. Except ive already done my 4 years of university haha. AND THEN when i make sure im home on days he plans to work on his homework he just sits and watches tv instead. So frustrating!!
He's got this weird thing with nail clippers where he can never find his (I guess) so he always buys a new pair... about twice a year I throw out like 10 pairs of his nail clippers. So weird!