What do you do....

Okay update: I decided to ask my fiance's family members and his brother's girlfriend. That seem really keen to help and make sure the day is a success. Honestly, it comforted me that even though I'm not close to them that they are willing to help me. So I really appreciate all the advice! Now next question how do I ask them officially lol?

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That's so true. My dad had his dad as his best man!

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Is there anyone in your life that you're close with other than your partner you could ask - like I mean ANYONE regardless of age/gender? I've even seen people ask one of their parents or an aunt/uncle/grandparent to be in the bridal party. At the end of the day it doesn't matter if the person is a non-traditional choice for a bridesmaid/man. The only thing that matters is that you are choosing someone who you feel comfortable with being part of your bridal party. If nobody fits the bill then I think your best option is to have nobody.

If not, is your partner willing to forego having his brothers stand up at the altar? I think maybe the idea of having no bridesmaids would sit better with you if you didn't feel like things were uneven. He could still do all of the other things with them and even have them walk down the aisle if that's what they were planning, but instead of standing up at the end they'd take a seat in the front row.

I just want to be clear, I moved away from a terrible relationship before and unfortunately any friends I used to consider close haven't come to see me or anything since moving 3 years ago. The friends I thought I had here, I feel like just don't know all of me and who I am. I have NO siblings and NO cousins to ask as everyone is either 10+ years younger or older than me and I don't have a lot of contact with them. My fiancé suggested his cousins but again, I feel like I have nothing in common but marriage and kids. I just wanted to feel like I at least had someone who would be up there with me on my side as my fiancé has his twin brothers. No, I haven't asked if one of them would be interested to be on my side, I don't really want to have one of them on my side as I'm not close to either. I had one offer from the brother's girlfriend but I just don't want a break-up (if it happens not saying it will) to mess up my wedding and have to figure out feelings.

View quoted message No I don't even have sisters or close cousins....like not even a friend that I consider close.

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Do you have a brother or a male close friend that you can ask to be a Man of Honour?

I only have my best friend standing up for me at my upcoming wedding. You really don't need to have a million people in your bridal party. There's also nothing wrong with not having any bridesmaids at all. Don't feel like you need to have people standing up there with you just because. That's why I only chose one person.

You don't need bridesmaids. Lots of people are skipping bridal parties these days. I would much rather go solo than have to ask people you don't know very well to be bridesmaids. And if I were a friend of someone getting married I would feel really awkward to be asked to be in the bridal party if I didn't know the person well.

View quoted message The problem is I wanted at least a maid of honour, I just don't have sisters or cousins or friends really anywhere around me. It sucks and I just wanted some people to at least be walk down with my fiance's brothers

To add to everyone else's comments, you don't need an equal number in the bridal party either. Just do what feels right for you rather than have people up with you for the sake of having them.

I agree with Michelle, there's nothing wrong with not having bridesmaids. We didn't have a wedding party at all for ours and the whole experience just felt more laid-back. I've been in wedding parties where there was so much drama and I just didn't want to go through that for my own wedding, among other reasons. If we had done maid of honour and best mans then my moh would've been one of my guy friends, so if there are men that you feel closer to then ask them.
Whatever you choose, make sure it's something that you're most comfortable with and try not to let other people's opinions rule your decisions.

Oh man do I feel your pain. I do have a few bridesmaids, 2 were easy the other was a struggle because I am close to her but I wasn't in her wedding and I just wasn't sure what to do. I know people who have had 12-15 people on each side in their wedding. It's tough but remember quality over quantity. I had to let go of the idea that I should have a certain amount and just be happy to have the friends I do have.

There's nothing wrong with not having bridesmaids, they're an older tradition that most people still follow but if you don't feel like you have anyone close enough to you to ask then just don't ask. You don't have to feel obligated to have bridesmaids just because other people do it.

There's also nothing wrong with having "bridesmen" if you have male friends that you are closer to than female friends.