Wedding Shower - who to invite?

Invite everyone invited to your wedding for sure....dont assume they wont come. some people love a little getaway in a hotel for a night or they make a weekend of it

Honestly it depends on who these family friends are... I’m totally on board that they shouldn’t be invited if they are invited to the wedding however some of your parents old friends or elderly ladies may enjoy just coming and sharing in your joy and they will like bring a smaller gift

My fiancé’s hometown is 6hrs away from mine. I’m doing my bridal shower there and inviting whoever I would invite if it was in my hometown. I know people would be offended if I didn’t. My mom attended a bridal shower in our town but the wedding is out of country and they knew she wouldn’t go to the wedding and we all thought that was totally fair. It’s common for people to be invited to bridal showers even if they couldn’t come tothe wedding. I would still send wedding invites to those people though

View quoted message Thanks that's a good idea.

At this rate it is getting more and more common that those who didn't make the invite list to the wedding are wanting to attend the shower at very least so I do get where your Mom is coming from... with that being said maybe you could 1. have 2 showers - one in both home towns (if you only want 1 though then it should be for your side of the family imo) and 2. send out physical invites to those invited to the wedding and maybe have them say it's an open invite to those who weren't invited to the wedding? Just by word of mouth? Of course they would still need to rsvp though as most halls have max. numbers and you need to have a good amount of food and drinks...

Hello Kelsie,

I am in the exact same boat. My family is almost 9 hours away. My sister offered to throw me a shower back home. I will not be inviting everyone to the wedding that may attend the shower. I will however invite every family member from back home. My sister will be inviting her friends as well as all the family. We have a very large family and im sure her friends will understand. Honestly I dont think they will. If they ask though I will invite them. I would rather kinda take it by ear.

Also I will mention to her if any of the ppl are planning to join our wedding in another country.

If they are people who have watched you grow up and would mean world to your mom invite to shower. I only invited people who were invited to wedding but that was way we did things and my decision.

Like you said, inviting people to the shower who haven't been invited to the wedding is a little rude. If you have room at your venue and budget, then I say invite the people your Mom wants at the shower to the wedding. If not you can just say it is very intimate, and if they still want to come to the shower then cool.

As Kelsie said, you never know who will actually come. We invited people on my FH's side who we haven't seen in the time we have been together, and surprisingly they are saying they are coming.

I invited everyone, regardless of whether or not
i think they will come or not.

you never know, we invited people from Poland and England, all of whom have told us they’ll be attending the wedding.