Wedding role

Well actually my Fiance's sidekick is his cousin and she is delighted to be his "best women".

And we are not really following much on the old traditions anyways. We want our wedding to be fun and exciting for we are celebrating love.

So go with what will make you both happy, for it's your day to celebrate the love you have for each other.

My fiancé has his sister that I’m not super close with as his best matron, you could totally make her a grooms woman or grooms maid. My brother is my man of honour.


Or you can have her say a reading or poem during the ceremony?

Just curious, did your Fiancée actually ask her and she told you no, or did you just assume she wouldn't want to? I would let your friend speak for herself...


My bestfriend is a guy. He is my Man of Honor. He will be in the same color suit as the girls' dresses. When it comes time to his wedding, I will (likely) be in a fitted suit with pumps - that's really hot BTW.
MC's make the announcements (introductions, cake cutting, speeches, etc). This person needs to be funny and natural or it will be boring. It is also also very demanding role and the MC can't drink too much or let loose until the end of the nigt...Most people have their DJ take this role.
If you don't want your friend in your FW's bridal party, and you don't want her in yours because she's a woman, let her enjoy the party and bring a date regardless if she's with anyone. That's a way to show appreciation. Also - if she's truly your friend - I agree with Hank, it's 2021, get on with the times, dude.

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Masters of Ceremony, or emcee, is the person engaging/entertaining audiences by moving the event along. Think of the Host at the Oscars. It's a super high ask and not anyone can fill those shoes. You can be as awesome as Billy Crystal or a dud like James Franco. But if she's "difficult" as you say (whatever that means), I would just let her enjoy the wedding without having to work it. Not all close friends and family need a role in the wedding.

Since most officiants in Ontario have to ordained as part of a religion to conduct a wedding, a group of secular folks registered Humanism as a "religion" with the province so they can conduct weddings. It's the closest thing to a secular officiant you can find without going through the city hall.

View quoted message Yeah , like I said to Hank, Im almost positive she wouldn't wanna be a grooms woman. And she'd rather not be either or to be honest cause that's not the type of person she is (difficult some would say lol). I want to give her her own role.


I don't know what a master of ceremonies is? But I will definitely research it!
Thank you!

View quoted message Yeah, I get it's last century but you can call me old fashioned. And plus I am almost positive she wouldn't wanna be a "grooms woman". And what is a humanist officiant?

I agree with Hank! Does she not want to be a "bridesmaid" because she'd rather stand by your side? More and more people are having "bridesmen" or "groomswomen".

If you don't like that idea, you could ask her to be the Master of Ceremonies for the party/reception, as long as she's comfortable with that.

Dude, gender conforming roles in bridal parties are so last century. Get with the times and make her a groomswoman! Even if you two don't want her in a suit (and by the way, women have been rocking suits for years now), she can wear a dress in the groomsmen suit colours (or not if you guys want to do a mismatch thing) and stand by your side on the big day. No biggie.

And no, not everyone who goes to law school can officiate weddings. Judges can officiate weddings but not any lawyer you find on the street. If you want a secular wedding, you have to find a humanist officiant.