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Newbie November 2018 Alberta

Wedding Plus-one Issue

Michelle, on September 20, 2018 at 15:51 Posted in Before the wedding 0 5

I have invited a handful of my co-workers along with their spouses.
I am friends with them outside of work as well, so it wasn't even an option to not do this.

But a few months into wedding planning, there was a new addition to my work team. She's great and fits in wonderfully with everyone but there's one problem. Her boyfriend (who she lives with) does not. We live in a small town and happened to be at the same social event one night. Her boyfriend ended up getting very drunk and tried fighting all of my fiancé's friends. I would love for her to come and to talk freely about the wedding, but I have absolutely no desire to give her a plus one. What should I do? Please keep in mind that I will have to work with her after the wedding as well.


Thanks!

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Latest activity by Bianca, on September 20, 2018 at 20:51
  • Bianca
    Master August 2019 Ontario
    Bianca ·
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    I agree with the other gals who have said that you should invite just her, however, don't be surprised if she can't make it due to the lack of a plus one.

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  • Michelle
    Expert April 2019 Alberta
    Michelle ·
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    You could just say that since the wedding is pretty soon now, due to budget and space reasons you have to leave him out of it. You don't know him as well as you know her, and you have to be choosy with last minute invites as you don't have too much wiggle room with your guest list. This is reasonable and she should understand.

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  • Allison
    Master October 2019 Ontario
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    I agree with Tori, since you have only known her a little while, I would say there is a spot for her at the wedding and you would love for her to attend.

    You don't have to get into why you're not giving her a plus-one, just simply state there's only one spot.

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  • S
    Frequent user January 2021 Alberta
    Sara ·
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    Are any of your co-workers that are invited likely going solo? Maybe instead of giving her a formal invitation, since she is still pretty new, you could suggest that so-and-so take her as their date?

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  • Tori
    Top October 2019 Manitoba
    Tori ·
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    Seeing as how you only have a couple months before the big day I would say your best bet is to let her know that, even though you have only known her for a short while - that you would love for her to come to your wedding. With that being said, you only have room for one person (Oh darn!) and that she wouldn't be able to bring a plus one unfortunately.

    This is how I would go about it. Even if on the big day she see's empty seats or that there could have been a couple more at the table where she sits you could always say that those people cancelled last last minute or that they were a complete no-show!

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