Wedding Party Feelings

Awww that sucks to hear! but she may have some closer friends or family that she is putting in her party. Plus maybe ur husband and her FH talk all the time etc or have known each other longer kinda thing. I had a few people put me in their wedding party however now that mine is coming up i wont be putting all of them but its just cuz im closer with the girls that i picked. I actually didnt even tell the girls of the weddings i was in that i havent picked them so that was nice of her to at least sit you down and let you know. but i wouldnt worry too much just enjoy being a guest and have fun!

It definitely can hurt that your husband is in the wedding party but you're not - but there is probably some good reasons. He might be one of the guys better friends and your friend might have had to reduce the number she wants to have matching sides.

Don't take it personally, as someone who's been a bridesmaid and my FH was just a guest, I still got to see him quite a bit at the reception.

Man, I don't even know how I'd feel. I'm sure I will one day though as I don't expect at least a couple of my BM's to ask me as they have a whole lineup of sisters though.

I mean, I don't have very many friends to begin with and my FH does so we are what Lisa would call the exception - but when it comes to their future wedding's I'm sure I won't be asked. It sucks and you feel childish having that feeling of "but I asked you to be in mine!" but I totally get the whole they might have family or they might be closer to some other girls that they see more often as they might just have a bigger circle of friends. Heck, I went to my FH's cousin's bachelorette party and she had like 20 girls there!!

Hi Megan,

I'm so sorry you are feeling this way! It was very considerate of her to let you know that you wouldn't be included in the wedding party, and of course disappointing that she didn't mention that your husband would be.

In my experience, many women have a larger number of friends and family that they feel close enough to want to include in the wedding party than men (always exceptions to this, of course).

I'd guess that it's not that she doesn't feel close to you (otherwise she likely wouldn't have been in yours) but that maybe they decided together that having an even number of people on either side is important to them and she has either closer family members or friends that she just absolutely couldn't not include in her party.

Maybe mention to her that you were a little hurt that she didn't tell you that your husband would be included, just so you get that out there. Many times there are couples that only have one person in the wedding party and still manage to have a great time that day and night. He will probably be sitting at a head table, but I'm hoping/assuming you'll know a decent number of people there to sit and socialize with during dinner and then you and hubby can sit together when the party starts?