Wedding party discussion

When it came time chooaing our MOH and BM each, we knew who we wanted and they all said yes (1 MOH already said she better get that position). Later, my best friend informed ne she was moving and wasn't able to be here for my wedding. I already knew my back up.

The best surprise though i knew from the reservations, my best friend made it to our wedding.

Everyone we've asked has said yes instantly. My best friend actually said the answers always been yes.

We are having 4 bridesmaids, 1 maid of honour, 5 groomsmen and 1 best man. I originally had 5 bridesmaids but unfortunately one dropped out due to personal issues, which sucked at the time but it made me realize who my true friends truly were. That was the only "snag" we hit, besides having an uneven group, but it worked out because my soon to be niece, who will be turning 11 just after our wedding, is going to be paired out with two groomsmen, which I think is really cute and funny, so it all worked out! I asked my girls all within 1 month of one another, and FH asked the guys around the same time as well. Every single one of our wedding party instantly said yes, which was exciting!

For myself I am having my sister, cousin and best friend as bridesmaids and my other best friend, who I've known much longer, as my maid of honour. My fiance has been a best man twice and a groomsmen once, all of those friends who were previously married are now in his party, as well as another friend and his brother. This decision shouldn't be something that's difficult. It should be people that you really care about standing there with you. As far as how long it took...I asked my girls when we started planning the wedding. my fiance took a little longer, for no real reason.

Easy decision for us, I am having my three sisters and he is having his brother, his best friend of 20+ years and my brother.

We have a really big wedding party. I have six bridesmaids (including Maid of honour) and he has seven groomsmen (including best man). The choice for him was super simple, as him and his guy friends have always been a tight group. The choice for me was just as easy - I have a lot of acquaintances, but not a lot of close friends, so I chose my best friend, my sister, then a few other close family members (from both my side and his). We originally had six people on both of our sides, but he didn't feel right leaving out one of his close friends, so he added a seventh. I didn't want to ask another person just to even out numbers, but I also didn't want him to miss out on asking a close friend to be in our wedding just because our numbers wouldn't match up, so having odd numbers it is! That just means that one lucky bridesmaid will have two handsome groomsmen beside her lol!

We are having 4 bridesmaid and 4 groomsmen. We choose ours right away a few days after engagement. We have already has to make changes, one of bridesmaids backed out * not sure if she is still in wedding party or not said we will play it buy ear* . And my fiancee best man won't be a huge part of decision process we choose another groomsmen for it.

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We have family in our wedding party. My brother, 2 of my fiancés cousins (sister and brother) which we see almost every 2nd weekend (my fiancé is an only child), my best friend whom is my daughters godmother and of course my daughter who will be the flower girl/ring bearer. Those are our chosen and asked people. I have chosen and haven't asked a close friend yet as well as another friend yet as I'm not sure whether or not she is going to end up being a bridesmaid or the maid of honor. My best friend lives in the states and will only be able to come up once in December and once for the wedding. We are just happy she will be able to come for the wedding.

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It will be so lovely!

We have 2 and 2 my FH husband had an easy time with his 2 as they are his brothers, although it took him forever to ask them, "they are my brothers they know" so I think the last brother actually got asked a couple months ago. I had a harder time deciding since I have one best friend and then a collection of good friends I don't talk to as much as I should. I ended up asking my best friend and my sister in law (she has been married to my brother for 15 years she is basically my sister.) I ended up just dress shopping with my mom and no one else. I picked a dress at my first appointment.

View quoted message We have daughters that will be our flower girls and my nephews who will be the ring bearers. If you only have family included there is a better chance you won't regret who you chose to stand beside you. Family all the way

I have 2 bridesmaids and he has 3 groomsmen. It was an easy decision for both of us and my FH was actually done first. I would say that you don't have to change the status of your friend if you are also asking a couple. Just because a couple doesn't mean they have to hold corresponding positions in your wedding party. Most people understand this when they are asked to be part of a wedding party.

I had a super hard time and then when I realized I was having a hard time I made it easy for myself and just picked two girls that I love and that are very important to me, my sister and best friend. my FH is picking his brother and best friend. we are having a small wedding of 60 people so I think that is pleanty for a wedding party

We have 4 bridesmaids (including MOH) and 3 groomsmen (including Best Man) + ring bearer. I knew who I wanted in the party - fiance took more time but knew who he wanted. Wish we would have discussed it a bit more before asking and that I didn't jump the gun in asking - but we are happy with our party! It has been hard trying to organize everyone as no one lives close - spread across the province/country!

We have 5 bridesmaids and 5 groomsmen (including MOH and best man). It's bigger than the typical group for a smaller wedding, but that's just the way it's turning out!

I knew who I wanted in my bridal party right away and asked them all probably within a month. My fiance took more time to finalize his choices. I think we were engaged for 9 months before he asked his last guy.

I would make your selections based on who you feel closest to and do it only when you're really sure. People will generally understand when changes have to be made, but it could cause hurt feelings to invite someone to stand and then let them know they were bumped for someone else. I also wouldn't hold too tightly to the concept of inviting people as a couple unless you're genuinely close to both of them. Pick individuals based on their relationships to you and the groom. You can always designate special tasks the day of to anyone who was close but didn't make the cut (MC for the day, usher, etc.).

Alanah, that's a good option. I was married before and had 3 and 3. You're right, 5 years later we didn't have contact with any of them. This time around, I have one matron of honour (my friend), and one bridesmaid (my adult daughter). He will only have his brother as best man. I have 2 adult sons who will be walking me down the aisle. I'm pretty sure I'll be in contact will them in the long run.

My FH got really stuck on the last groomsmen. Like we had the first ones picked in a week, and the rest took a while. So I finally suggested he just pick both of the people he was considering, and within a week, everyone was asked and agreed.

I had 3 bridesmaids, 3 groomsmen, and 1 maid of honour, and then 1 best man! It turned out perfect for me and I definitely needed their help with certain things. Without them, I don't think things would have turned out as perfectly as they did!

I decided to not have a wedding party! I figured it would be easier and that way there would be no hurt feelings in the long run. Friendships end and I don't want to have a bunch of photos with people that I have no contact with in 5, 10 or 20 years, I would rather the focus be on me and my FH