Wedding Garter. Yay or Nay?

We are a YAY! I had mine custom made for him and a special toss one ... FH wants his to hang from his review of the truck lol

We are having a cocktail reception, and I was trying to think of a way to make sure we see everyone (FH might not go of the dance idea). I was going to do a round of visits at dessert if we had a sit down meal....but now I'm open to suggestions!

I think we are all in the same boat with the "giving away"...letting our Dad's do it because we love them and know they have dreamed of it. I know my dad loves me, so I am less horrified by the tradtion!

But I could rant for days about this stuff

I was glad WW didn't have a character limit and let me just put that face because it was all that was needed (and was literally my face while reading it lol)

I was in a similar boat... I hate what my dad walking me down the aisle represents, but it's SO important to him that I'm going to allow it (with some variations)

Yes exactly!!!!

Well I think it's a very valid point though and now that I know I don't want to contribute to that message. Not to message my FH gave me the "Do I have to do that" response lol so he'll love you for the suggestion" I was even going to walk myself down the aisle because I don't like the meaning of handing a woman off to another man. But then after my dad got into a car accident my view on that changed a bit, because I want him to have something to look forward to, and that's a responsibility he seems to want.

and it is something new- I've never seen it done, it will be fun and memorable...and helps make sure you get facetime with each guest to say thank you personally.

There is not a more accurate expression ^^

Don't let me discourage you! Most people don't know the origin, and the tradition is harmless I've just got funny feelings about a lot of wedding tradtions and their roots. My issue to work through- don't you take it to heart!

Thanks! I think this way the table won't get cluttered either!

I think that varioation on the dance would be awesome! dancing with a basket of sorts?

I agree with. I'm not a fan of having money pinned to my dress or ends up stocking me in the process.

Yes that's what our family used to do too. Just not a fan of asking for money . So I'm not sure. Have to look into it further

I like this idea! I was at a wedding where guests would pin money on the bride's dress as it is a tradition in other cultures.

After reading the tradition associated with the garter toss, I'm rethinking and searching google like a mad woman! (Note to self: Do not read wedding wire app when trying to fall back asleep at 4am!) Found a cool idea, which I used to love back in the 80's (best time period ever-dont judge me lol) which was the money dance! But I thought instead, I'll toss the bouquet and something else for all the little kids joining us and maybe do a dance , where the bride and groom get to dance with everyone, and instead of having the guests pay money, maybe we could give out our party favours to everyone as a thank you. Thoughts?

Damn, now that I read about the tradition I'm rethinking it!!!! Ugh! I wanted to do it more the jokes we could have put under my dress but now I'm not so sure! Good thing I have time to think about it!!!!!

I went to a wedding where someone did that too. Back home they get the guy that catches the garter to put it on the leg of the girl who catches the bouquet.

Haha well that might be better than the last wedding I went to where the bride's brother caught it triumphantly and put it on his head like a headband!

We are doing it! Lol I think it will be fun! Plus a cousin of mine who caught my mom's garter is giving it to me as my something borrowed!!! Then I will buy one to throw away!

It's my FH that decided he didn't want to do this one. He said he found it embarrassing as he hates being the centre of attention.

I voted no...I don't like shining the spotlight on all my single friends...was fun when we were under 25 now that we are in our 40s it's less fun (or maybe I just have bad feeling about the bouquet toss from personal experience) plus I don't really want my FH tossing up my dress in the middle of the dance floor. I might wear one but if I do it is staying put all night.

Same here, I just can't seem to wrap my head around it.

The last wedding I went to when this tradition was done; all the guys that the garter was headed towards just dispersed and moved AWAY from the garter.

I bet they do...I've seen chocolate ones too now that you mention it

I like that idea! Haha maybe a fake hockey puck instead of a real one? (Don't they make like hockey puck squeaky toys?)

THIS would be cute! but for us it would be a hockey puck...and then someone is losing a tooth...and that might be too much.

Oh totally, I know people don't do it now for that reason and I don't care that others want to do it... just not for me either

Yup. They would rip the poor girl's clothes off....or less horrific, but still awful, needed their proof that everybody got naked.

I totally understand that the tradtion is to be fun now, and most people don't do it to celebrate some perverted mysogyny...but I can't get past it. I have nothing against people who want to to it...but for for me!

omg... I knew some of the reason behind the tradition but looked it up for full accuracy... so much worse than I realized!!!

"Tossing the wedding garter is an old time held tradition. It is said that in the days gone past, the bride and groom had to show proof of their wedding consummation. In order for it to be proven, it was common tradition to have people like family and friends come into the room with the couple. The "witnesses" would obtain the garter as "proof" of the consummation. Also having any article of the under garments was considered to be good luck so sometimes things would get out of hand in the newly wed's bedroom as crazed onlookers snatched at clothing to get for good luck. This was not appreciated much by the bride nor many grooms, hence the groom started tossing the garter out so that no one would need to obtain it themselves."

Agree- a bit humiliating I think...and again with the origins of the tradition. Just gross.

Nay! Definitely not a fan. I did see this on Pinterest though and thought about maybe doing it instead but we decided to just stick with the bouquet toss.

Alternative Garter Toss